silly question for trans people...

I'm a bit ignorant about this, and sorry in advance. I just want to know more so I don't fuck up.
I have a coworker who's a trans man (born girl, just to clarify) and I really like him and want to be his friend, but as I said, I don't know a lot of stuff and I don't want to make him uncomfortable or anything.
My question is: Is it rude to point out that I never thought they were trans? Like, he looks like a cis man. I thought this and almost said it, but then wondered if it would make him uncomfortable?
Please share you're experiences, or advice, or anything at all about this topic. EXCEPT HATE, NO ONE CARES THE UGLY THINGS YOU THINK, KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, thank you! :)

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Do you swallow when pregnant?

LOOK- before anybody act up in these comments let me explain 😂 I’m now on my second pregnancy and was having this conversation with my homegirl because I feel like swallowing while pregnant is wrong deep in my bones.. I genuinely don’t know why and I don’t judge anybody who does I just cannot allow myself to do it 💀 my homegirl said she completely gets it and she was the same way but her fiancé thinks it’s stupid. My husband says he understands & he’s not trippin about it but it got me thinking… do a lot of women feel this way? & if you do is your SO understanding about it or do they think it’s weird that you won’t do it just because you’re pregnant?

This will probably be getting deleted at some point btw 😂

No Friends.

Hello I'm a soon to be turning 33 Mama who can't seem to keep friend's around or keep the friendship going for a long time or even start a conversation to make friends to have for a long time. I don't know if there's any Mama's out there just like me or not but it's worth a shot to see who's out there. I would love to meet new Mama's I can vibe with and we can even have our kids have play dates and us Mama's too can have our time. Hopefully I can try and hold on longer to the next friendship I make through here. I've met some people that I've chatted with but haven't kept the friendship going I just kinda ignore it and let it die out. I'm not good at keeping things going. I'm a little shy at first but once you get to know me I'm great 🙂 more than great I can't stop talking. See what I mean lol 😆. Anyways I hope someone sees this and sends me a message even if it's to help me with keeping friendship longer or becoming my new friend. Please be kind.

Thanks for listening to me.🙏🏾

Anyone done couch to 5k after having 2 kids?

I have 2 kids (1 year and 4 year). I want to do couch to 5k, but wondering if anyone has done it and it’s been worth it?

First time mom

Does anyone else feel like leaving the house is challenging with a baby? My preemie baby is 3 months (2 months adjusted). My husband works a lot and I take care of the baby. I stay home most of the time, but I just went to the grocery store to get out of the house & get stuff. I feel like I'm learning to be a mom alone.

Friendship struggles

My friend asked “what is one thing you struggle with, when making friends?”

I said “I struggle with letting my wall down, getting close & trusting people. When you have been burned too many times, it’s hard to know who to open up to & be vulnerable with.” Also, social anxiety is a big thing that gets in the way of making friends for myself & for my kiddos.

What’s your answer? 🩷🩷

Sex during pregnancy

I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant, and me and my partner have had sex a total of maybe 3-4 times or less this whole pregnancy and it’s my fault.
I’ve always been insecure of my body but before this pregnancy I was losing weight and becoming a bit more comfortable and confident with what I looked like,
Now, I feel disgusting, I feel gross, I feel like a fat ugly hippo, I have no effort to put any work into my appearance, my hair is always left natural and thrown in a bun, I don’t try attempt to put makeup on, I have zero clothes that fit me and look acceptable on me so I tend to wear the same clothes over and over again if not just my sleepwear and tend to stay inside all day.
I also now have external hemaroids which I’m terrified of my partner seeing cause it feels gross to me, so it only really leaves missionary which isn’t my favorite, it kinda puts strain on my bump , and I hate having to see my big fat stomach which just puts me off.

Sometimes when he’s just running his hands on my thighs or something, it makes me cringe, and I feel like a terrible partner

My issue is that I feel guilty, he’s tried to initiate it a few times and I’ve shoved him off me, rudely said no, he is a man and I know he has needs and I know he can repeat that it’s okay and he understands how I feel but I know deep down it can’t be enjoyable for him getting zero action.