Engorgement

5 days postpartum and my milk came in. I’m extremely engorged and painful. What has helped for you guys to reduce pain? I think I’m giving up breastfeeding, I can’t live like this.

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Dont give up just yet!! once you stop it will be hard to start again if you wanted to try again. The milk supply comes in that much in the case that you have a multiple birth. But i promise in a few days it will adapt to the amount your baby eats. But if you want to store some while you can, id recommend pumping while you have this much and then let the supply go down jn about a week.

to relieve some pain, Take a warm shower, hand express or pump just until relieved- but not till empty: pumping until empty during this time will cause this over supply that you have to continue and it will definitely be harder for the milk to decrease.

Dont give up! That's completely normal, your body is just figuring out how much milk the baby needs, I dont think it lasts more than a month
I second the idea to take a warm shower! I also used to use the silicone pumps that just use a gentle suction to get milk out, if youre using bottles at all

Lean over your bathtub with the steam going and massage and put something down to collect all the milk that comes out

Steam shower and expressing will be the only relief. You are probably fresh home and feeling all the emotions, and pain from delivery (no matter which way you chose) its natural to be over it. If you can continue great-the first 6 weeks are tough but after you will regulate and wont feel as engorged as now. if you cant continue, since your milk already came in, you will feel the pain for about 3-4 weeks until your body adjusts to not making milk. Good Luck and congrats on the new baby❤️

HOT SHOWER AND MASSAGE THOSE TATAS!! Alternatively get your partner to do the expression for you.

Do you have a lactation massager?

No I've always used my hands

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I’m at breaking point..

Any advice will be appreciated pleaseee.
My son has always woke up throughout the night (I know this is normal for newborns and even now at nearly 15 months) BUT.. usually when he wakes up I can re settle him. I put him in our bed and he’ll go back to sleep, although after 11pm he’ll never sleep back in his cot. But the past month he’s been waking up inconsolable for a good hour, arching his back and just in tears. I’ve tried so many different things, I’ve even gone to the GP who didn’t know what else to suggest and has referred us to a paediatrician but it’s a 3 month wait.
Has anyone else had this please?
I did originally think maybe night terrors but im unsure. No teeth are coming through either so im just besides myself.
He’s also not too happy in the day, he isn’t the happiest baby (which makes me feel like a bad mum and like I’ve done something wrong, but I think it’s just his personality).

But please can someone recommend something or tell me they’ve had this happen too and it does get better because I’m at breaking point.
Every night I just pray tonight will be the night he’ll sleep through or even for more than just 3 hour stretches but it never is

Changing/bathing in front of the child

Hello mammas,

I need your advice. I have a boy and he is 1 year and 2 months old. My husband works 12 hours a day and I have no family or friends nearby, since we moved when my boy was 1 month old. Due to this, I am taking showers or changing in front of him. I cannot do this while he is sleeping, as in the second i leave the bed, he wakes up instantly.

Untill what age can I still do this in front of him, without damage? I would hate to have mommy issues or God knows what because I want taking showers with him

Are you stillllll breastfeeding !?!?

Yes Hun. Thanks for asking.

Is it just me or are people very critical of feeding infants /toddlers??!? Not like I need to explain why.

Anyone else get annoyed?

When your baby is unsettled and hysterical crying and everyone tries to take over in settling him, then be hero like when he does. Makes me feel like a failure

Putting baby down for a little while

My baby is 5 weeks old and we are unable to put him down at all, not even for 5 minutes, without him screaming. We have tried making sure he is fed, changed, warm and waiting for him to sleep for 30 minutes but nothing seems to work. As you can imagine, we are co-sleeping. Any tips would be really appreciated or even hearing some solidarity. My new strategy is to try and put him in the baby sling for a while to get things done but would like to work towards him being comfortable being put down.

How do I get a velcro/high needs baby drowsy but awake at bedtime?

I normally rock my 11 week old or put him on my chest to get him into a deep sleep and then place him in the crib. But I now want to teach him to self soothe.