How do you politely tell your MIL to stop folding everything

I have said it MANY times that she doesn't need to fold our clothes or do our laundry. Yet I'll come home from a baby class to find a load of laundry on (nothing separated, the whites have turned grey) and clothes folded. I have to stop the washer, pull out all the white clothes (some of white I've had to put in a bleach bath to get back to being white) and refold or unfold clothes so I can put them away properly. All of our socks have one super stretched elastic and one normal tension.
It has been almost 3 years of this. She shrank the only pjs that were comfortable to sleep in while pregnant with my son, when I was pregnant with my daughter. And before you say I probably just gain weight because of the bump, bump does not affect the length of your arms.

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This one time we were on vacation visiting family for the first time (myself and my son). The auntie asked me if we had any laundry. Knowing we didn't have much time before our flight and feeling awkward about using someone's laundry appliances during peak hours, plus I was on vacation (laundry can wait until the day after I get home) I said no. My MIL, without telling me, takes my duffel and dumps the entire thing into the washer. There was a bag of dirty clothes in there that didn't get properly washed. My clean clothes, my toothbrush, my hair brush, and my medication all went through the washer.

could you put a lock on your bedroom door so you can keep your laundry kept away? i don’t really know how to advise you if you’ve already told her many times 😭 or perhaps your partner can talk to her on your behalf?

Before i make any suggestions, does she live with your or do you live with her?

I've also tried to bring it up with my husband and he like "she just bored."
"You should be grateful"
"I know you don't like my family"

Wtf? I never once said I don't like his family.
I am grateful when she helps in areas that I struggle with (ie vacuuming, I hate the noise).
If she's bored then look after my kids while I get chores done, that's why she's here in the first place, to spend time with the grandkids

If she isn't listening maybe try separating your laundry before she can starts doing it. That might help her realize she should mix them. When my mil does a load for me she still folds them even tho I ask her not too but she wants to be helpful. I then unfold them all and sick them in drawers. So I say try and find a compromise or a work around for the aspects that really matter. If it's the way she fold them then why not keep it that way.

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My little boy Benjamin is 9weeks old and already in 3-6 months clothes, he’s having 7oz of hungry baby milk every two hours however he does sleep 9pm to 6-6.30am (9 hours) every night
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That I’m one and done? I feel so guilty to not give my daughter another sibling but she is a hard baby and newborn stage was so awful for me and struggled really bad with PPD.

Also not support from family members either so it just me and husband

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