I can’t take it anymore

Sounds weird but I’ve been using chatgpt and it’s given me a plan which I’ve been using for the past 3-4 nights. It’s working so well and improved my babies sleep dramatically!
Hope you can get things sorted. It’s a horrible place to be in when things are going shit and you’re tired. Hang on in there xx

I’ve been up since 1:20am and still wide awake at 4:30…. I can hear my baby is about to wake up again…. Tomorrow is going to be so demanding again.

Have you considered just taking the baby into your bed? Or if you can't do it, could you put a mattress on the floor so you can lie down with baby? It won't create any bad habits and might help you survive. And help with back pain!

Is your partner able to help, even if it's futile? On a really bad night, when I'm done, tired and frustrated, I'll wake my husband up to take baby away even though he's unlikely to fall asleep with him. But at least I get a break.

I know it's really really hard. Sleep deprivation sucks. And it seems like it will never end. I've been there. What helped me is getting a deeper understanding of infant sleep and brain development. Some babies are happy to sleep independently but many (most) simply aren't and it's normal. Bloody hard but normal. Which means you have to work around it rather than against it. Radical acceptance and doing whatever is needed in the moment to survive xx

Oh and the NHS are absolute crap. I have quite obvious PTSD from two very traumatic births (their fault), especially the 2nd one. I tried to get some help and referred myself to talking therapies. Got refused and told to come back when I start getting flashbacks 🫩 Just because I have decent awareness of what's wrong with me, and can talk quite matter of factly about it, they won't help me 🤷🏻‍♀️


For feeding advice, if HV is crap and doesn't respond, please come along to a local breastfeeding support group, even if you're not breastfeeding. I volunteer at one and I promise you they won't turn you away! Mothers to mothers are also amazing when it comes to maternal mental health and can offer a lot of support! Xx

As Paulina says, I found taking baby to bed is what you need rn to survive. Might not work magic, he will be still waking up, but at least you get some rest, and possibly nod off at some point too? I don't think it's possible to survive without co sleeping in this age. I hope you will be okay xx