Unreasonable or nah?
Partner wanted to take son to see his grandad at the pub at 6pm. I said thats fine but he needs ro be back by half 7 absolute LATEST because his bedtime is actually 7, but I wanted to give them longer. He starts arguing, saying son can sleep in the pram. I say no, you know he doesnt sleep well in the pram and he doesnt transfer well, bedtime will be a battle and so will the night shift. He says he'll handle it but I say it's not the point, our son needs routine. He starts yelling at me, telling me I'm being controlling and he can do what he wants with our son. It becomes a massive thing, resulting in me saying 'if you cant compromise, youre not taking our son anywhere'. He tries to backpeddle and say he'll bring him back, its gone 6 now and hes losing time. I say no, until you learn to respect our sons wants and needs and out them before your own/your dad's, it's not happening
Hes now crying in the garden to his dad about what a bitch I am and tbh, I'm ready to pack my shit and leave.
For context: 1) I do ALL the nightshifts. My partner never wakes, if I want help I have to wake him. But if I wake him he gets shitty and makes the whole nighttime thing way more stressful, so I've stopped bothering. Partner says this is MY problem as I'm choosing to do it alone..
2) his dad won't come to ours apparently, because i 'dont make him feel welcome'. Weird, considering I hugged him last time I saw him and hand painted an engagement card, but Im a cunt ig?
3) last time he took him to the pub, he didnt come back until 11pm, despite me ringing several times asking him to being him home. He left eventually...after his friends told him to.
AITAH? Long story, but please read to the end ❤️
I video called my mom and grandma to show them my daughter riding her scooter and having fun. I forgot her elbow and knee pads, but she had her helmet on.
The entire 5-minute call turned into repeated concerns—mainly from my grandma—that she was “too far ahead,” “going too fast,” not watching for others, and not properly geared. I addressed each one: she was only a few feet ahead (the video made it look farther), she was going a steady speed, we stay to one side and watch for others, and yes, I forgot the pads but we were already out.
I also said I heard the concerns, that I wouldn’t forget the pads next time, and that we should move on and keep the call about watching her have fun.
My mom let it go, but my grandma kept circling back to the same points. After acknowledging everything multiple times, I ended the call instead of getting frustrated by saying, “Alright, I think it’s time we go, but you guys keep chatting! Chat later, bye.”
For context, my grandma is 80 (sharp, no cognitive concerns). I let most comments go, but sometimes I set boundaries or respond.
Now I’m being told I was rude and condescending and should have just kept redirecting and let it go. I didn’t yell or say anything harsh—I just ended the call. I'm told if I keep up my behavior they won't want to be around me and she hates answering my calls now. I've only addressed things a handful of times. Over the many years.
AITA for ending it?
Am I wrong?
Am I in the wrong just for asking my husband a question while he’s playing game. I got off of work, came home and started cooking and tending to the kids. Husband took the day off today, slept most of the day. Then he said he told me he was going to get on game for 10 minutes and then get in the bath which I didn’t hear because I was cooking. Cats are meowing cause they’re hungry so I proceeded to ask him if he fed the cats, he didn’t hear me so I raised my voice a little higher and then he got mad at me for asking a question so I just left him alone. Once he got off the game after his match was over with he says to me that I didn’t have to yell at him. I feel like I didn’t yell but I did raise my voice a little higher so he could hear me. Then he starts screaming at me saying, “he just wanted 10 minutes to himself, can’t I give him that” now we’re fighting cause I said I was just asking a question I don’t understand how that’s wrong? Then I said he should always have one headphone off his ear while playing and the other one on. I wasn’t nagging him or telling him he couldn’t play the game or anything. It was a simple question, and now I feel as if I can’t ask him anything. I already had an overwhelming day at work, and then come home to a toddler who hasn’t napped all day. And now I don’t feel like talking to him at all..
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