post partum intimacy

i am 9 weeks post partum. my husband and i have tried a couple times now to do it since being cleared at by my family doctor at 6 weeks. but it just hurts !! i had no tearing or anything but it feels like im shoving glass in there. what do i do ?? should i go see my OB for an exam ??

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I'd advise you to stop as your body is clearly not ready - and that's okay.

Please do see someone for a thorough checkup.

And please remember, 9 weeks is so soon. Your body is still healing. Rest as much as possible.

All the best. X

I am 8 weeks postpartum and we tried once and couldn’t even get the tip in 😭 it felt worse than losing my virginity so far but ti be fair we didn’t do foreplay as long as we should’ve. But tbh it just seems like we are still healing and it’s just going to take some patience but it would never hurt to go get an exam done.

I had a c-section so thought it was be fine but it still hurt loads at 8 weeks and I ended up in tears 🙈 we didn't try again until 12 weeks and it was a bit better but I still wasnt massively keen, took it very slowly the next few times with lots of romantic lead up... was glad my husband was super patient with it

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