Only if you’ve ALREADY given your child a phone. (Pls don’t answer what you PLAN to do) 🤳what age are we giving kids phones?🤳

I’ll make another poll about what you plan if your kids are young

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My oldest was 11. He didn’t actually use it but the idea was that if we left him at home or he went to a club he could call us. Got him an iPhone at age 12 and he definitely uses that! It’s quite useful as he used to get a taxi to school and the tracker could tell us where he was if running late.

I didn’t want to get my kids phones until 14, but my almost 10 yr old is on the bus in the afternoon for almost 2 hours, and my nephew that we care for is going to be 13 this year, and has extracurriculars and has to stay after school more, so we may be getting them a phone this summer due to those reasons. But I’m still REALLY on the fence about it. I don’t like the idea of them having phones. If and when we do get them phones, they will be under parental controls and they will not have free rein of the internet, certain apps, or communications. It’ll be set up by us for their safety and wellbeing. Phones are so addictive, I don’t want it to take away part of their childhood.
I got a phone for my 10th bday and I didn’t need one. So I really don’t wanna do the same for my child, but times are also so different now. 🙃

My stepdaughter is 5 and has a phone. An iphone 17 However it’s not to leave her mother’s supervision. She can’t read so there’s no calling or texting anyone, And she pretty much only uses it to play games. And we have an iPad for her here. We go along with having a majorly obsessed screen kid because she’s only here on the weekends. So really that one is on mom because she has her majority of the time.
I plan to do differently for my son. In the future. And definitely won’t be issuing a smart phone if I can help it. But if there’s no other choice when that time comes I will be heavily using parental controls.

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I was feeding our 3 week old baby and asked my partner to take the pizza out the oven, he was just sitting on the couch. He refused to and said I should, I eventually did go get it out otherwise it would have burnt. Now I’m pissed off with him. He says I did nothing all day so I should have just done it. His idea of nothing is looking after a 3 week old and 2 year old all day.

So my son is at pre school which is free Monday to Friday 9-3 term time only

I work 3 days a week. My son goes for 3 days a week and he absolutely loves it. Would I be a bad mum for putting him in 4/5 days so I could clean the house and work another day for more money? He starts school in a year so also thinking do I carry on spending 2 days in the week with him while I can before school?!

When I see a toddler in a pram with a bag of crisps I....

Smile, because I always have bags of crisps in my bag along with other snacks for my toddler too 🤣

Ok, I have a conundrum! CPS or no?

So my bestie has a cousin whom I know and this cousin has a partner (they are married) and 4 kids.

Kiddo's 1 & 2 live with a druggie, do drugs themselves and have issues. Kiddo 1 lived with my bestie for a time and struggled. He is autistic too. Kiddo 2 had been sent to live with his aunt for time due to behavioural issues and drugs.

Kiddo 1 & 2 lived together briefly (essentially kicked out as soon as they could be) in a unit owned by their parents.

They are roughly like 27 and 25 now.

Kiddo 3 is beautiful but also has some issues. He is a people pleaser and may struggle with certain adult respinsibilities but is over all well rounded, very smart and qyite self sufficient. He is studying and has a job and a gf. He is around 22.

He currently lives with my bestie in the unit his parents own.

Kiddo 4, lives with theie parents, is a round 11/12 and will not function when he becomes an adult. He happens to be autistic and may have FAS (knew the potential never got him assessed) but his parents have neglected him medically in regards to this, most of his life.

He is the golden child and his siblings know it.

He can do no wrong, never gets in trouble, never has to do anything he doesn't want to, always gets his own way. Spends a huge amount of his time playing games online with other people and cuasing and yelling while doing so.

As far as I know, no one ever spoke up about his behaviour or the parents neglect, about getting him diagnosed or any sort of help.

Basically he has been let down by everyone in his life.

So he apparently hates autistic people so they haven't told him he is autistic.

He was having severe issues at school and he has social issues so they have decided to home school him, but his Dad will work from home at the same time.

Kiddo's 1 and 2 barely see the family from my understanding and kiddo 3 doesn't like visiting much anymore due to kiddo 4's behaviour.

He isn't in therapy but apparently he is on medication for his behaviour but he is beong told it's for anxiety.

He is also overweight because he eats junk (I have an autistic kiddo and understand the struggle) but does no exercise. It was school and video games. Now it will just be video games.

I am hearing all this through my bestie and am so frustrated and heartbroken for this kid that noone has protected him. Including several mandatory reporters.

Do I report this if I can? I don't know kiddo's last name, know 1 parents but not the others, though I should br able to access that through social media. I don't even know exaxtly where they live. I know rough area.

Someone needs to stand up for this kid.

To add extra context; in the last few years they have lost both paternal grandparents and a paternal uncle and Dad was really, really sick in hospital for many months.

All 4 kids are adopted. 1 and 2 are siblings.

Both parents are AH's who use and abuse family and likely friends. Telling my bestie they where staying at the flat and bringing a cat despite her having a cat. Her cousin was angry she replaced the broken vaccuum. They expected her to parent kiddo 1 through being an adult out on his own because they couldn't be arsed.

Cousins has a sister who lives in a house he built and he holds it over her head.

Invited my besties parents for Christmas and didn't provide food or drinks and decided they where going to the sisters house (my besties cousin) and would cook there. It was apparently very weird and unwelcoming.

They are just pretty awful, self centred people.

I don't want to cause issues for my bestie or her other family though.

Anyway, CPS or no? Should I tell bestie of I do?

Gonna get judged ik

I know I’m gonna get judged but I let both my kids 7months and 10year old watch tv my 7month old watches faith based stuff on minno or educational videos we as kids watched tv and are fine my daughter and son are both very very advanced

What are you guys doing for mother's Day?

I'm just gonna preface this by saying I like my MIL but only in small doses. So basically my FIL invited up over to their place and asked that my husband and him grill for us. I understand that this day is about all mother's but I really don't feel like spending my mother's day stuck talking to my mil. If my husband is grilling than I have no buffer and that means I'm taking care of our daughter the whole time. My husband turns into a kid at his parents place and basically after eating just naps on the couch leaving me to handle my 16 month old and his mom by myself. Not to mention he has never really cared about "celebrating his mom" he really just wants to grill with his dad. Which I get, they don't spend much time together but this day is supposed to celebrate me too. Not to mention I'm pregnant and am struggling to eat meat..... So am I selfish for wanting to say no to going over there?