Am I wrong

I was feeding our 3 week old baby and asked my partner to take the pizza out the oven, he was just sitting on the couch. He refused to and said I should, I eventually did go get it out otherwise it would have burnt. Now I’m pissed off with him. He says I did nothing all day so I should have just done it. His idea of nothing is looking after a 3 week old and 2 year old all day.

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I’d rather be single. I’m sure you already know you’re not in the wrong, but if you need confirmation of what’s normal, when I was feeding our son my partner would cut up my food and even feed it to me if needed. I wouldn’t do a single thing that benefits your partner, like cooking, his laundry etc.

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If this isn’t a rage bait post, the fact you’re even asking if you are in the wrong speaks volumes about what a number this guy has done on you.

To cut a long story short because I know this is probably the straw that broke the camel’s back situation, but the answer is leave him.

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I’m sorry but you need to dump this dude lmao. What a loser.

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I’d have fed him burnt pizza

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You're 3 weeks in, this is a sign of things to come. Cut your losses. I had this same conversation with my OH about helping around the house coz I can't do it all, 5 years later same old shit different day

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is a full day’s work ,actually more than a full day. Feeding a newborn alone is exhausting.

It’s reasonable to expect support with something simple like taking pizza out of the oven. You deserve help, not comments like that. Hopefully he can see that once things calm down ,because this stage is teamwork, not score keeping. 🤍
Have a serious convo with him and make your standards to treat u better higher queen .
Sending hugs 🤗

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No support from partner

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I’m pregnant, tired from looking after baby all day (he works 7am-8pm 4 days) and nauseous and hormonal and my body aches and I don’t ask him for anything apart from an occasional leg massage which he always says he’s too tired for.
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