No support from partner

I have a 10 month old and I’m pregnant and my husband gives me 0 support yet he says he’s so tired and drained from me and our marriage because we argue a lot. It’s true we do argue a lot but I’ve been saying to him for years he doesn’t listen to me and that’s the thing that triggers me, he still says he doesn’t know why I get triggered which is further proving he doesn’t listen.
I’m pregnant, tired from looking after baby all day (he works 7am-8pm 4 days) and nauseous and hormonal and my body aches and I don’t ask him for anything apart from an occasional leg massage which he always says he’s too tired for.
When he’s home it’s his tv and phone and no time for me. I’ve mentally checked out of the marriage because of the lack of support (he walked out on us a few weeks ago which I’ll never get over that he left me at my weakest) and now he’s back and all he does is complain. I think he’s checking out of the marriage mentally now too.
Complete transparency, I am snappy and I don’t mask my feelings when he pisses me off and he thinks I’m rude because I address him as an equal and don’t use superior respect words (foreigner thing).
All I ask for is better communication from him but he still acts like a child and hides away
Am I in the wrong?

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Unreasonable or nah?

Partner wanted to take son to see his grandad at the pub at 6pm. I said thats fine but he needs ro be back by half 7 absolute LATEST because his bedtime is actually 7, but I wanted to give them longer. He starts arguing, saying son can sleep in the pram. I say no, you know he doesnt sleep well in the pram and he doesnt transfer well, bedtime will be a battle and so will the night shift. He says he'll handle it but I say it's not the point, our son needs routine. He starts yelling at me, telling me I'm being controlling and he can do what he wants with our son. It becomes a massive thing, resulting in me saying 'if you cant compromise, youre not taking our son anywhere'. He tries to backpeddle and say he'll bring him back, its gone 6 now and hes losing time. I say no, until you learn to respect our sons wants and needs and out them before your own/your dad's, it's not happening

Hes now crying in the garden to his dad about what a bitch I am and tbh, I'm ready to pack my shit and leave.

For context: 1) I do ALL the nightshifts. My partner never wakes, if I want help I have to wake him. But if I wake him he gets shitty and makes the whole nighttime thing way more stressful, so I've stopped bothering. Partner says this is MY problem as I'm choosing to do it alone..
2) his dad won't come to ours apparently, because i 'dont make him feel welcome'. Weird, considering I hugged him last time I saw him and hand painted an engagement card, but Im a cunt ig?
3) last time he took him to the pub, he didnt come back until 11pm, despite me ringing several times asking him to being him home. He left eventually...after his friends told him to.

Help - honest views / advice?

My house is not big enough for the pram inside - I have no hallway and limited living room space. I am having to leave the pram and travel system in the boot of my car which is on the driveway right outside the house. I am leaving the baby in his Moses basket safe and going to the car with the door open so can hear him. It won’t be too bad when he is in his stroller because this can be condensed down which I can bring in and fit in the house.

Does anyone else do this / or know anyway of resolving this??

I have anxieties and OCD which I am getting help for from the mental health team. My husband thinks I’m over thinking it for how long I am going to the car but I don’t know? Something just doesn’t sit right with me.

Discipline

How are we disciplining our children???

My daughter is 19 months and she doesn't listen for nooothing.

We have child safety locks on our lower cabinets and she tore one off and keeps trying to get in it. No matter how many times I tell her no and move her or hold her hands and say no she KEEPS. ON. GOING. BACK. And it's like that with eeeverryythiiingg. The trash, her dad's work boots, everything she's not supposed to touch or do she does it laughing.

I get she's testing boundaries but wtf am I supposed to do??

And don't even say hit her😒

6 week olds legs and arms still skinny?

Hey mamas, should I be concerned that my baby’s arms and legs are still super skinny? He’s 6 weeks old and is gaining weight but ive seen other peoples 6 week old baby’s and they seem to have much chunkier arms and legs? he exclusively breast feeds but I’ve had mixed reviews on this with some saying it makes baby’s chubby and some saying formula does.

What’s your reaction to this

One of my family members are homeschooling their children, they do not teach their children much. When I asked He said there 10-year-old is learning how to read by playing Minecraft. They were very happy by this fact.

Feeling alone and lost

I'm ready for another baby now. I want one really really badly. It has always been my dream to have a large family, like 10 kids. And when my husband and I were dating, he agreed that's something he would love. Now it feels like he's backing out on me. He says that while he'd be happy if i got pregnant again, he'd prefer to wait another year before even trying.
Here's the thing. I have progressive scoliosis. I had to start intensive chiropractic care when I was 12 and later PT in order to slow it down and manage pain. I know, and my husband knows, that the more time passes, the harder it will be on me to carry and birth children. I want to have children earlier while I know I can. Plus you just never know what the future holds, so I generally have a "why wait?" attitude.
I just feel so lost. I already don't know who I am anymore outside of being a wife and mother. Now a part of me is afraid maybe I don't know my husband as well anymore either. He seems to be ditching the dream we had when we got married.

To be fair to him, we do live in a 1 bed apartment right now, have a small car, and are fairly low income. He has recently started a side business on top of his day job, one that he plans to eventually do full time from home. I also want to get a remote job, and have a whole plan, but he says I have to wait while we save up for our emergency fund and the $600 I would need to start. This kind of makes it feel like he gets to call the shots and do what he wants to do, but my plans and dreams have to be put on hold.
Am I in the wrong here? I don't resent him or anything, I just feel unheard and alone.