Discipline

How are we disciplining our children???

My daughter is 19 months and she doesn't listen for nooothing.

We have child safety locks on our lower cabinets and she tore one off and keeps trying to get in it. No matter how many times I tell her no and move her or hold her hands and say no she KEEPS. ON. GOING. BACK. And it's like that with eeeverryythiiingg. The trash, her dad's work boots, everything she's not supposed to touch or do she does it laughing.

I get she's testing boundaries but wtf am I supposed to do??

And don't even say hit her😒

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I don’t think this requires discipline.

Redirecting curiosity and possibly moving hazardous materials to a different location

I’m not at that stage yet with my baby. But I was raised to know the consequences of my actions. I know it’s controversial. Some kids just need a spanking 🤷🏼‍♀️ lots of y’all will be mad at me for thinking this way but in my opinion no is no, 1st time is explanation and a warning, 2nd time it’s a consequence. I mean you can put her in time out corner for 2 minutes and just go from there. 2-5 minutes, if she leaves the corner restart the timer. And remember boredom is their kryptonite. But at the end of the day kids will be kids. I remember growing up and I used to go into cabinets, but mom made sure the stuff below were simple house hold items like pots and pans and things that don’t shatter.

They have no impulse control at all, sorry to say but it’s all down to you to make the environment safe and redirect her.
Make sure to tell her what she CAN do instead of what she CAN’T do. Saying ‘no’ won’t achieve anything as they don’t understand negatives in that way and it’s too vague to mean anything. Try magnetic locks that go on the inside of cupboard doors and utilise baby gates to close off rooms where she needs to be supervised

i just keep everything that u dont want ur kids to touch out of reach😅🤣

This doesnt really require discipline IMO. shes just learning and exploring. I read somewhere its better to create "yes" spaces where you dont have to tell them no. We dont have any child locks anywhere...we just moved everything thats potentially dangerous to out of reach. I also kind of believe a bit in fuck around and find out parenting. If she does something she shouldn't and gets a bonk on the head or gets dirty etc...who cares shell learn not to do it.

Just have to keep reinforcing boundaries. But personally I would never hit my child or anyone for that matter.

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I have some serious baby brain right now, and I’ve read this over and over and am still unsure! I don’t want to do it wrong and then not get the funding! Picture attached below - mums on maternity leave (SMP) what did you pick? Yes or no? Technically no I’m not earning that much as SMP doesnt pay that much, but my normal job would pay over that and I’m due to go back in 2 months. Help please!

Am I in the wrong?

My husband was in a really bad car accident. They weren’t sure if he was going to make it. He got life flighted and needed multiple surgeries. When I got the call, I was so scared. I packed the kids up and went straight to the hospital, where we stayed until they made us leave, and then I got us a motel near the hospital so we could be there in the morning. In the morning the news wasn’t good and this was when they spoke about life flighting him 3 hours away. I called my mom and asked her to take the kids for the night so I could be there with him. For the duration we were in the hospital, I had the routine of taking the kids to school, driving back to the hospital, staying until 5pm and then leaving to be home by 8 to get the kids to bed. From 5-8 (when their school/aftercare ends to when I got them) they were safe at my mom’s house playing and watching movies. This routine went for 3 days, because then the weekend hit and we all went to the hospital and colored/played bored games in his hospital room with my husband who was in recovery, awake, and in surprisingly good spirits.

Anyways, my mom ended up texting me as we were being discharged and told me she feels I chose my husband over my kids. She said if I was taking a whole week off of work I should’ve been taking them places and having fun with my kids. She says there was no reason for me to have been in that hospital because I’m not a doctor, and he had professionals taking care of him. She believes I failed my kids, and accused me of not loving them. She said it’s so sad I chose a man over my children (my dying husband and father of my children, to be clear). I told her she was being ridiculous and she flipped out more. Now every day since we’ve gotten home, she texts me calling me a horrible mother and saying I need to leave my husband because he’s a “loser” now that he’s can’t walk so he can’t provide for us. She accuses me of not loving kids daily, makes threats to take them from me, and says I don’t protect them or do my job as a mother.

To add more context here, I’m a good fucking mom. People always compliment me for how I handle situations. I am involved in the school, I sit at every single soccer practice/dance practice/ recital/ music lesson, etc. I encourage all their dreams. We have family movie nights and game nights and they have everything they need in life. Full bellies, showers, warm beds, and a loving home.

So what would you have done? Was I wrong?

I’m exhausted

I have a 3 month old and I’m the only one that wakes up with him in the night. My bf works 6am-2pm and he is the provider but when he gets home he doesn’t do anything. Like I do everything by myself, laundry, cooking, bathing the kids etc. I get it he works but that shouldn’t stop him from doing stuff at home. Then he wants me to work on top of school and on top of the kids. It just seems like the mom’s load is never ending while he’s free to do anything.

Feeling alone and lost

I'm ready for another baby now. I want one really really badly. It has always been my dream to have a large family, like 10 kids. And when my husband and I were dating, he agreed that's something he would love. Now it feels like he's backing out on me. He says that while he'd be happy if i got pregnant again, he'd prefer to wait another year before even trying.
Here's the thing. I have progressive scoliosis. I had to start intensive chiropractic care when I was 12 and later PT in order to slow it down and manage pain. I know, and my husband knows, that the more time passes, the harder it will be on me to carry and birth children. I want to have children earlier while I know I can. Plus you just never know what the future holds, so I generally have a "why wait?" attitude.
I just feel so lost. I already don't know who I am anymore outside of being a wife and mother. Now a part of me is afraid maybe I don't know my husband as well anymore either. He seems to be ditching the dream we had when we got married.

To be fair to him, we do live in a 1 bed apartment right now, have a small car, and are fairly low income. He has recently started a side business on top of his day job, one that he plans to eventually do full time from home. I also want to get a remote job, and have a whole plan, but he says I have to wait while we save up for our emergency fund and the $600 I would need to start. This kind of makes it feel like he gets to call the shots and do what he wants to do, but my plans and dreams have to be put on hold.
Am I in the wrong here? I don't resent him or anything, I just feel unheard and alone.

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Feeling unsupported

My husband works a lot. I'm a new mom. He only helps when I ask him and sometimes he acts so put out when I ask. I am thankful that he works and that I get to stay at home with our baby but am I selfish for wanting a little help everyday? He was throwing it in my face that he held our baby for 3 hrs total today (keep in mind it was not all at once & this is not an everyday thing). Also, it was because I had to work on stuff for the baby (like laundry, installing baby stuff, ect).