I’m exhausted

I have a 3 month old and I’m the only one that wakes up with him in the night. My bf works 6am-2pm and he is the provider but when he gets home he doesn’t do anything. Like I do everything by myself, laundry, cooking, bathing the kids etc. I get it he works but that shouldn’t stop him from doing stuff at home. Then he wants me to work on top of school and on top of the kids. It just seems like the mom’s load is never ending while he’s free to do anything.

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My partner hates me for not terminating

My partner and person I planned to marry told me they resented me yesterday for my decision. They didn’t come home today and turned on do not disturb to avoid me.

It wasn’t planned and when I found out I wasn’t thrilled but have grown to the idea. They however didn’t want and asked for a termination. I agreed initially but as I processed it decided against it.

Yesterday they sat me down and told me they didn’t want this and felt trapped. I told them I had debated being a single mother because I don’t want them to resent me for this decision and they don’t have to be a part of this if they didn’t want too. They told me they already resent me for this and we kind of left it at that.

Today they didn’t call me to check in or come home. They text me to say have a good evening but nothing else really. This is completely out of character for them and I feel this relationship is pretty doomed now.

The thing is I’m terrified of doing this alone. I know I have some friends and family who could support but the end of the day it will be just me. It’s weird being apart from them but I also think I’m going to have to get used to it. I also think if I terminated our relationship would never be the same regardless and I would grow to resent him.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do?

Wants a dna test

Sooo, today I had my anatomy scan(thank god everything went well, especially with baby) but once again dad couldn’t make it.
I told him about it the day before and told him I was leaving my mom’s house at a specific time, either meet me at my house or the hospital, left me on read and never came. He then got the nerve to ask why I didn’t call him. Well one I was up all night finishing my hair by myself, rushing out the house, sleep deprived, and I told you when to come so that’s on you, not me.
Anyways , I told him why and apparently he didn’t like what he heard so now he’s talking about he wants a dna test. I’m gonna give him what asked for and im breaking things off with him. Not because I’m guilty but because I’m tired off always being accused or the identity our baby being a topic every time he doesn’t get his ways.

Too mad to punish wisely...

My 4 year old son took scissors to our old, heirloom, Ethan Allen couch that belonged to my husband's dearly departed grandmother - highly sentimental and probably the most expensive thing we own! He knows better and lied to me when I discovered the damage. My husband is deployed, naturally, or else I would let him deal with it. I'm shaking with rage, so I'm a deer in headlights trying to figure out what to do about this, but I can't just let him get away with it! I've always struggled with discipline, but this is WAY beyond my scope of parental skill - WTF DO I DO?!?!

Idk what to do🤷🏽‍♀️

Hey so I have 2 kids, my son just turned 4 in March and my daughter is 19 months. We live in apartments on the 3rd floor and we just moved in about a month ago. Our downstairs neighbors are constantly banging on the ceiling when my kids are playing and don’t get me wrong i understand kids stomping all day can be annoying so I try to minimize them running or doing things that make stomping noises and I feel bad because they can’t play how they want in there own home and my kids don’t stomp at crazy hours like I’m able to hold them off till like maybe 3 or 4 in the afternoon and go to bed at 9pm but they don’t stomp that whole time. So idk if i should maybe write them a letter explaining I have two little kids or am i wrong when they stomp at all?

why am i not a good enough mom😔

why aren’t i doing the things im supposed to do with my children im doing what i need but doesn’t feel enough can’t help but doubt myself but also so tired with 3 toddlers i just feel like im not good enough

Guilt for older child

Hello, I’m 8 weeks pp and I have a 3 year old. She’s taken to being big sis brilliantly and I really can’t complain but I’m finding it hard at the moment as baby is very clingy and I feel like I can’t give my eldest enough attention and I feel like it’s starting to have an impact on her behaviour. Baby just wants to be held, awake or asleep, I’ve tried a sling/wrap which works but I still cant really bend and play with her properly. Anyone else finding the same? Any solutions? Thanks!