Ok, I have a conundrum! CPS or no?
So my bestie has a cousin whom I know and this cousin has a partner (they are married) and 4 kids.
Kiddo's 1 & 2 live with a druggie, do drugs themselves and have issues. Kiddo 1 lived with my bestie for a time and struggled. He is autistic too. Kiddo 2 had been sent to live with his aunt for time due to behavioural issues and drugs.
Kiddo 1 & 2 lived together briefly (essentially kicked out as soon as they could be) in a unit owned by their parents.
They are roughly like 27 and 25 now.
Kiddo 3 is beautiful but also has some issues. He is a people pleaser and may struggle with certain adult respinsibilities but is over all well rounded, very smart and qyite self sufficient. He is studying and has a job and a gf. He is around 22.
He currently lives with my bestie in the unit his parents own.
Kiddo 4, lives with theie parents, is a round 11/12 and will not function when he becomes an adult. He happens to be autistic and may have FAS (knew the potential never got him assessed) but his parents have neglected him medically in regards to this, most of his life.
He is the golden child and his siblings know it.
He can do no wrong, never gets in trouble, never has to do anything he doesn't want to, always gets his own way. Spends a huge amount of his time playing games online with other people and cuasing and yelling while doing so.
As far as I know, no one ever spoke up about his behaviour or the parents neglect, about getting him diagnosed or any sort of help.
Basically he has been let down by everyone in his life.
So he apparently hates autistic people so they haven't told him he is autistic.
He was having severe issues at school and he has social issues so they have decided to home school him, but his Dad will work from home at the same time.
Kiddo's 1 and 2 barely see the family from my understanding and kiddo 3 doesn't like visiting much anymore due to kiddo 4's behaviour.
He isn't in therapy but apparently he is on medication for his behaviour but he is beong told it's for anxiety.
He is also overweight because he eats junk (I have an autistic kiddo and understand the struggle) but does no exercise. It was school and video games. Now it will just be video games.
I am hearing all this through my bestie and am so frustrated and heartbroken for this kid that noone has protected him. Including several mandatory reporters.
Do I report this if I can? I don't know kiddo's last name, know 1 parents but not the others, though I should br able to access that through social media. I don't even know exaxtly where they live. I know rough area.
Someone needs to stand up for this kid.
To add extra context; in the last few years they have lost both paternal grandparents and a paternal uncle and Dad was really, really sick in hospital for many months.
All 4 kids are adopted. 1 and 2 are siblings.
Both parents are AH's who use and abuse family and likely friends. Telling my bestie they where staying at the flat and bringing a cat despite her having a cat. Her cousin was angry she replaced the broken vaccuum. They expected her to parent kiddo 1 through being an adult out on his own because they couldn't be arsed.
Cousins has a sister who lives in a house he built and he holds it over her head.
Invited my besties parents for Christmas and didn't provide food or drinks and decided they where going to the sisters house (my besties cousin) and would cook there. It was apparently very weird and unwelcoming.
They are just pretty awful, self centred people.
I don't want to cause issues for my bestie or her other family though.
Anyway, CPS or no? Should I tell bestie of I do?
