4 month sleep advice!

I need 4 month baby sleep advice!
Chat gpt says one thing, an app says another. My baby is 4 months 2 weeks and feels like his sleep has been rubbish for like 5-6 weeks now. I did think yesterday maybe his day naps are too short, he’s had three short naps today (30 mins each x 3)
An app I have is saying he should have another short nap (6.38pm) but Chat gpt is saying an early bed time. He can normally go down between 6.00/7.45 depending on the day after a bath and feed but he wakes so much during the night.
The app is saying they need like 3 hours day time sleep then 10 nighttime, But he just seems to wake every 1.5-2 hours and only thing to settle is the boob. I try dummy and hand on chest first, sometimes works, most time doesn’t, same with a cuddle and rocking. Boob quietens him but half the time it’s soothing rather than feed. I unlatch him and let him sleep on me for about 15 minutes so it’s safe to transfer him without waking, also sometimes works, sometimes doesn’t. I don’t know what the right thing is to do. Feel like I’m losing my mind lol

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The reason why it's variable between advice is because there's no right answer, it's all trial and error for your bub specifically. Some things will work, some things won't, as it's so dependent on sleep needs, temperament and if there's a growth spurt or a mental leap going on.

My two little ones with the same setup and both formula fed, one never slept and couldn't be out down eyes would open on every transfer then scream and the other can be put in happily awake but sleepy and will just chill until she nods off.

He had a long nap in the day and two short and then every two hours through the night regardless of what I did. She, had 3-4 x 30min naps want to go up to bed around 6.15-6.45 tells us when and then is asleep within 30 mins with one or two wake ups max!

Honestly with my first I was searching for a silver bullet/answer and nothing worked. I found accepting and following his queues was all I could do to not drive myself mad!

Sorry it's tough mumma, but you're not doing anything wrong. Xxx

Also the fourth mental leap can be really tricky if that's at play x

So sleep needs actually drop around 4 months by about two hours so I would calculate your babies average sleep needs and go from there! It could be you are trying to get the same amount of sleep out of him when he doesn’t actually need it!

Cat naps at this age are super normal so don’t panic about them x

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