Modified Ferber Method💤

Has anyone here used a modified Ferber method (3–5–10 check-ins)?

My son is 4 months old and I’m starting to look into gentle ways to help him learn to fall asleep in his crib. I’ve seen people mention doing timed check-ins (3 mins, then 5, then 10, etc.), but I’m not sure if he’s too young or how others have found it.
If you’ve tried this:
• How old was your LO when you started?
• What was your experience like?
• Did it actually help with settling/longer stretches?
• Any tips or things you’d do differently?

Would really appreciate hearing real experiences! Feeling a bit overwhelmed with sleep at the moment 🥺💕

(We have tried DBA, Pick-Up-Put-Down). Currently co-sleeping every night and contact naps. Since 2 months, he cries regardless when being cradle-held to sleep, so it’s a matter of crying vs crying. Other than that, he has a chill temperament.

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Well, it finally happened.

My 2.5 yo woke up last night screaming for Mommy and Daddy, terrified like she had never screamed before, and when I went in to check on her, she told me she had heard a ghost.

The monster and ghost checks have begun.

Breast feeding/sleep.

I love breast feeding, it’s quick and easy for me. However, I used to do both, bottle and boob. Until I was told not to use a bottle which I wish I never listened to as all it has done is cause me stress 😭
My 13 week old uses me to soothe, which is normal for a EBF baby, but he doesn’t want to unlatch and he also contact naps. So I never catch a break and no one can get him to nap EVER, he will literally scream until he’s latched.

He will only nap on the boob. It’s exhausting as I am a human dummy. He won’t nap by rocking, white noise, patting, etc, trust me, I’ve tried everything since he was 5 weeks old, he just hates sleep.
I am wanting to introduce bottles again, slowly and not to upset him. But the crying kills me.

Should I start with 1 bottle in the evening before he goes to bed? With my partner doing this? I’m aware this is a slow process but I worry he won’t ever nap unless he’s on me or would he start to come out of this as he grows anyway?
Recently he has been getting a little better, I can unlatch him, even if it takes several attempts. He’s also been able to nap in the pram for 15 minutes which is amazing.
Do they start to be able to fall asleep in other ways as they get older?

Has anyone’s baby had this before? What is it?

My daughter woke up from a nap and that’s when I noticed it. She’s been very fussy today and chewing more than usual.

White noise!

Hey mamas
When did you stop putting your baby to sleep without white noise?
My baby will be 11 months nest week and can't even take a nap without ehite noise.
Is so annoying, and sometimes we gave to listen to that in the middle of the night when he don't want to sleep.

Picking up the baby

My partner has said that I am holding the baby too much. She is 6 weeks old. Rarely cries but if she falls asleep on me after a bottle I don’t always put her in her Moses basket. Am I ‘setting myself up’ as people keep on saying? She sleeps in her Moses at night time without a problem but I just hate to hear her scream .. please help!

Hot take. I think it's better to rehome your pets after having kids if it's affecting your postpartum mental health.

I had to. I had cats and I could not manage the twins and take care of them. It wasn't possible for me.