Ones who now have 2x babies/children

How are you finding things with the transition from 1 to 2?

I have a 2yr old boy and now a 11 day old boy.

Its quite surreal to think how different things are this time/atm. I feel like im doing alot more and going out more, ig took me a good 3mnths to leave the house with my 1st, I was out down the park the following day.

Its always such a rollercoaster with no textbook answers but is anyone in a similar situation?

Im hoping this is a positive thing and that things will just continue to get easier as the main thing is find daunting right now is nursery runs solo and having my toddler and newborn for full day or half days when not at nursery as im ebf and few friends have told me they just couldnt do it with a similar age gap, and im not sure how I will as our 2yr old is quite hard to contain unless he has your full attention I have some ideas to try keep him with me if need be whilst feeding but its still a little daunting

Im going to try the nursery run solo tomorrow with the boys to see how it goes 🤞

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I've got a 3.5 year old, I'm ebf and had a c section so can't drive and can't have a break 🤣 I'm struggling with the days my toddler is home with me as he doesn't nap anymore and I'm exhausted with no time to rest on these days 😫

I have a just turned 3 year old and a 4 week old and I've found moving around and doing things far easier (C section) but emotionally I've found going from 1-2 way harder than 0-1. There's no resting when baby is as my little one wants to play 24/7😅

I've got a 3yr old and an 11 day old. Only 8 days between their birthdays haha.

So far so good. I'm EBF but my eldest is good as gold and still feeds sometimes too. He enjoys having a boobie at the same time as the newborn and he gives him cuddles at the same time which is really sweet. He also looks after him if he cries and sings to him etc. I make sure that baby is told to wait when my toddler wants me too, to make sure he doesn't feel like he's always waiting on me to make time for him.

I was laid back the first time (both births were sections) and was out and about the day after we got back from hospital (day 7 or 8 I think) and same this time. Straight back into routine.

The only thing I'm unsure how to deal with at the moment is trying to do bedtime for my eldest if I'm own my own. He still likes to have a feed and cuddle in bed while he goes to sleep which I love doing. But obviously I can't leave baby unattended. I think I may end up doing bedtime in my bed so baby can be in his next to me...

I’m finding it hard. I have an older teen too so I’ve not completely gone from 1-2 kids but my oldest was 10 when my second came along so very different to having a toddler!

The mum guilt is overwhelming this time I’m very emotional. I feel like I’ve spent NO time playing with my 4yo. He’s used to it being me and him all week. I’ve had a C-section and I’m day 13PP currently. Literally do not know how I’ll manage once my partner buggers off back to work 😆. Not necessarily with the 2 little ones but the pain and uncomfortableness I’m feeling having to do the preschool run not being able to drive! X

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Other mum disciplining daughter in front of me

I have a mum friend from the kids swimming. Our daughters are 3. We have caught up maybe 5 times. Last time at the park though she thought it appropriate to talk sternly to my daughter on multiple occasions when I already had a hold of it. Her daughter was in a standoffish mood and didn't want my daughter near her a lot of the time but was chucking tantrums when my daughter was walking away. Anyway, her daughter was on a piece of equipment and my daughter tried to get on with her and I was saying my daughters name and that her daughter didn't want anyone on there and she needed space. It took only a second before she got off it but this friend yelled my daughters name and said to get off the equipment now! And another time my daughter went to get on something next to her daughter and her daughter pushed her away and my daughter said you dont push people and she said no sweet you were pushing my daughter first! She wasn't but maybe she meant like being in her space. Its really put me off her. We see each other each week at swimming but im not keen to see her again outside as the way she was talking to my daughter was so harsh. Yes if I wasn't there it would be more excusable but again, not in her tone if voice. She has mentioned before she doesn't really have any friends in our town since she moved here 15 years ago and im now wondering if thats why. She has said before she likes to tell it how it is but this is more. What would you do? Just try to make excuses when she tries to catch up? Or flat out tell her? Feel she would be very abrasive. Also should mention im a very hands on mum and don't just let my daughter get away with treating other kids badly. She doesn't though, she just wanted to be near her friend

Am I being selfish? (Little one just gone 3 months)

Yesterday my mother in law suggested a family trip next year to centre parcs with our little one and wanted to book straight away, we've said no due to only having one wage and wanting our first holiday to be just us three

(She then asked if she could just take him after us mentioning money)

She just seems to be so pushy since having my little one, I get it's her first grandchild but some of the comments are coming between me and my partner and it's not fair!

The first instance was when I was 1 week postpartum constantly asking us to go over for tea, then once I caved and went over ( I shouldn't have at the time cause the driving caused me pain as it's a 20min drive) it's now when can he stay or when can she have him alone but it's constant, however, she's took it upon herself to get a cot and has decorated a room for him which is lovely don't get my wrong but me and my partner just feel as though we're being pressured by her

Grandparents babysitting

When you have your parents or your child's other grandparents babysit them, do you share the routine and schedule or do you just allow them to do whatever or do you do like a half and half?

Random vent

Do anyone else feel like your an aggressive parent? And you have to be because the other parent is more soft than you? I don’t know I currently have a 4 year old , a 9 year old , 9 month old and currently pregnant with another boy! And my boys are ROUGH I love my babies but their “ BOYS “ constantly fighting constantly crying constantly breaking things constantly talking back and the list goes on I feel like I can’t be the soft loving parent at times or instead of yelling I can’t sit and just have a talk becasue it doesn’t work AT ALL my house is never quiet and dad is the complete opposite of me he HARDLY gets onto them for their wrong doings and his baby them which is fine at times but there are times where discipline is needed etc etc and I have to be that parent and it sucks.

If you spend the whole day with your toddler, how many times a day does your child want you to do imaginative play with them? Playing house, doctors, shop, etc?

My son wants to do it all day everyday and I’m tired 😪 Even when we’re out at the park or a play centre, he still tries to initiate imaginative play. Yesterday I took him to a play centre with climbing equipment, crafts, a Lego club and all we did is sit in the one of those buggy storage spaces pretending we were fish in our undersea fish house.

Just wondering what’s normal for a toddler?