Second child?? Hubby and I are on the fence.

Should we have another baby? Please read.

Hubby and I are constantly off and on the fence about having second child. My first pregnancy was hard!! Like worst possible things imaginable happened and I didn't enjoy it one bit!

I became the strict parent I really didn't want to be, I had to because my son is wild! He reached every milestone when he decided he was ready. No matter how hard we tried, he has the worst tantrums and I'm really struggling to understand how we managed to raise a child who refuses to follow even the simplest of instructions. He's going to school this time and I honestly thought he would be ready. But he really isn't!

I hate myself for being a strict parent. If I wasn't strict, he would just run a riot. He would eat things off the floor. Break every toy he owns and so on.

I want another child because I know I can be a better parent and I want to experience that amazing family bond that I see my sister have with her (extremely well behaved) children. I know there isn't a guarantee that I'll get this.

I also want to experience a normal pregnancy because mine was anything but normal!

I also want to give my child a sibling because despite him going through a defiant phase atm. I know he will be an amazing big brother, he is incredibly kind and loving when he wants to be.

Most days we agree to have another once he's settled in school then other days, we are "one and done" but it makes me incredibly sad to think about not having another child. It literally breaks my heart to think that this was it, our one and only chance at that loving family I've always dreamed of.

As I said we will wait until he is settled in school to try again but is all of this normal or good reasons to have another?

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Maybe working on changing your expectations when it comes to children’s behaviour etc would help, obviously I don’t know the full picture but everything you’ve described sounds like typical behaviour for a very young child

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