Worried about husband's mental health

My husband has been giving me attitude/tone recently and I had a serious conversation with him tonight. He broke down and told me he's not happy and it's been hard for him to act normally because of this. He's not happy with life, feels very down, and just wants to "quit everything". Doesn't want to wake up in the mornings. I've done a lot of therapy over the years and am in a good spot mentally now, but I'm really worried for him. I encouraged him to find a therapist or talk to a doctor, and let him know I'm going to continue checking in to make sure he has a plan to get some help. He kept saying he feels like a burden and I tried to reassure him that he isn't.

I'm looking for any helpful tips or encouragement. I want to treat him with empathy and kindness, while also making sure he gets the help he needs because I don't think he's okay.

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Is life ruined

I feel like no one will ever love me or like me and my child I’m a single pregnant mom at 22 feel like this is gonna mess up my love life it’s already making me disgusted that I don’t know the baby’s father I’m disgusted with myself and my life is ruined I had a baby to young… I’m sad my son he isn’t here yet but I’m no longer happy I’m just depressed depressed with myself…. Hate my life feel like no one will ever date me and I won’t be able to have anymore fun… I was just in a abusive relationship now this a lot of guys don’t like women with kids…

Did moving your babies to their own room help them sleep better? (And also you) 🫠

My baby is almost seven months old and he has started to reject his crib, I used to be able to sleep with him on his crib next to me but now he wants to be in my bed, I love the concept of co- sleeping but my back hurts so much from it and sometimes I can’t even stand up in the morning. I read here that if you move them to their own room they don’t feel your smell and I thought maybe he would be able to sleep again in his crib (the first part of the night he is fine and sleeps almost three hours straight but the second half of the night he wants to sleep breastfeeding and I don’t think my body can take it)

Plane overhead buggy✈️

Please give me your recs for a buggy (that can be used from birth) that fits in the plane overhead. I’m considering the Cybex orfeo but only really because we already have a Cybex system.

Sleeping through!?

I keep seeing posts where people have babies who sleep through the night -my baby does not, but I would love him to!
What are people doing to get this to happen?

At the minute we start bedtime around 7-7:30, depending on his wake windows and naps through the day, we change his bum and baby grow and then feed him to sleep in his room, in the dark with white noise (falling asleep around 8ish). Then we hold him in our arms until we go to bed (around 10:30 and he doesn’t stir at all, he’s just snuggly) I’ll then try to dream feed (sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn’t). Then he’ll sleep in his basket until around 1:30/2am. Then he’ll get up typically once or twice more through the night.
During the get ups we change his bum and feed him back to sleep, I wouldn’t say he’s awake for more than 30 minutes during this time - he’s breastfed during this time. I try to keep him eating for as long as possible by tickling his cheek and feet etc.

What are you doing differently/what advice would you give if you have a baby that does sleep longer stretches/through the night?
Tia xx

Breastfeeding

My baby is 6 days old and was due today, a May turned April baby!

Anyway, he was so sleepy during the days up until today, feeding all night. We saw the midwife yesterday on day 5 who said we should be waking him to feed every 2 hours, get him naked, annoy him until he feeds. We did that yesterday (albeit maybe more than every 2 hrs) then yesterday evening whilst my husband was bathing my almost 3 yr old (maybe about 7pm), the baby woke and fed, and fed and fed until about 1am when he was so fussy at the breast, I’d had enough and felt like he’d drunk me dry! I was in tears, so tired, frustrated and depleted. I passed the baby to my husband, who managed to settle him to sleep for a while so I could rest. I realise this is cluster feeding but it didn’t seem like he was getting anything, just us both getting more and more frustrated.

This has carried on into today, I feel like there’s no milk there for him. I am engorged, I’ve been massaging the breast, swapping sides and it seems the latch is good. He just doesn’t seem to get the good flow that he started with yesterday evening. He’s on and off like a yo yo, getting so so fussy, hands everywhere, shaking his head, screaming at me. It’s not nice.

It’s taken me a while to write this because he has been so on and off and fussy. It seems he’s had a good amount now because he’s just literally become the most content he’s been all day, and actually fallen sound asleep for one of the first times today.

Anyone else had this, is it normal?
Anything I’m doing wrong?

I struggled to breastfeed my first and supplemented with formula early and pumped etc but I’m reluctant to resort to formula unless I really need to. He’s being weighed again tomorrow and we have some feeding support at the hospital so hopefully get some answers but just thought I’d ask here too.

Help

I am worried about something i just found while dressing up my 3 year old. Found a moving lump at her left side of a rib. I am definitely gonna ring up the gp tomorrow morning as i m scared it could be something serious. It s not hard when touched, it s not painful and at the moment playing and eating very well but just confused how it happened. Please has any one ever found such in their toddlers rib and it went itself or not . I m just freaking out . Pls help