Breastfeeding

My baby is 6 days old and was due today, a May turned April baby!

Anyway, he was so sleepy during the days up until today, feeding all night. We saw the midwife yesterday on day 5 who said we should be waking him to feed every 2 hours, get him naked, annoy him until he feeds. We did that yesterday (albeit maybe more than every 2 hrs) then yesterday evening whilst my husband was bathing my almost 3 yr old (maybe about 7pm), the baby woke and fed, and fed and fed until about 1am when he was so fussy at the breast, I’d had enough and felt like he’d drunk me dry! I was in tears, so tired, frustrated and depleted. I passed the baby to my husband, who managed to settle him to sleep for a while so I could rest. I realise this is cluster feeding but it didn’t seem like he was getting anything, just us both getting more and more frustrated.

This has carried on into today, I feel like there’s no milk there for him. I am engorged, I’ve been massaging the breast, swapping sides and it seems the latch is good. He just doesn’t seem to get the good flow that he started with yesterday evening. He’s on and off like a yo yo, getting so so fussy, hands everywhere, shaking his head, screaming at me. It’s not nice.

It’s taken me a while to write this because he has been so on and off and fussy. It seems he’s had a good amount now because he’s just literally become the most content he’s been all day, and actually fallen sound asleep for one of the first times today.

Anyone else had this, is it normal?
Anything I’m doing wrong?

I struggled to breastfeed my first and supplemented with formula early and pumped etc but I’m reluctant to resort to formula unless I really need to. He’s being weighed again tomorrow and we have some feeding support at the hospital so hopefully get some answers but just thought I’d ask here too.

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