Did the sleep trend change while i wasnt looking?

From my perspective, 4-5 years ago everyone was all about schedules and structures and Moms On Call and ferber method sleep training. As soon as my son was born early 2025, it felt like a huge shift in attitude. People were horrified / thought we were idiots for being on a schedule, i have been insulted for not baby wearing, and i have been talked to by MANY people like im a neglegent mother for rarely contact napping or bed sharing or when we started ferber.

Judge away if you must, maybe its always been this way, but it really feels like there was a huge shift in how we mamage contact and sleep.

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Honestly not sure as I haven’t really paid attention since my kids are a bit older. But I always find it funny when people say negative things about having a routine and schedule for your young children when science literally says it’s extremely beneficial for their development.

I think everyone’s situations, lives and babies are different and as long as people are being safe with their bubbas each to their own to what works best for them!

I dont understand the negative comments on having a routine and schedule for your child. All my kids have benefited so well with routines and schedules

My oldest is 6, but this divide has always existed. I think people are just more sensitive to feeling criticized for whatever choices they make, which makes the other "side" seem more prevalent.

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Only child - I cried this morning

I have a son who’s 2 and I do not want anymore. I suffer with mental health and I cannot have anymore due to that reason.
But my sister in law has said how sad she feels for my little boy being alone etc and it’s not fair that I will
Leave him alone and the guilt I feel is awful 😭😭😭 the thing is not one of my partners side of the family help us

Time flies- first time mom

I just wanted to share how I’m feeling and see if anyone else feels the same. My baby was born March 4th and he’s just turned 2 months. I find myself very emotional and sad that he has grown so much. At first I was so overwhelmed with fear of having to take care of a whole other human- he was so tiny- but now that he’s getting big I wish I could go back in time. Obviously it’s good he’s growing and is healthy but it’s so sad how time flies.

Am I being selfish?

My husband has had a lay in until 9am the last two mornings whilst I’ve taken the baby downstairs from 6am so he could have peace and quiet.

This morning was meant to be my turn for a lay in, he is cuddling the baby but he is crying in the bed and I say to him, I think he needs his nappy done as that’s why he is crying and he ignores me after I told him around 5 times that the nappy needs to be done as baby isn’t settling… so I took the baby off him and did the nappy myself and took baby downstairs and said to husband enjoy your lay in 😂

I don’t understand why he couldn’t just do the nappy or take him downstairs like I do for him 😫

Is anyone else’s husband like this?

What age was your first child when you had your second?

What age do think is best for your child to be before you have another one?

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