Am I being selfish?

My husband has had a lay in until 9am the last two mornings whilst I’ve taken the baby downstairs from 6am so he could have peace and quiet.

This morning was meant to be my turn for a lay in, he is cuddling the baby but he is crying in the bed and I say to him, I think he needs his nappy done as that’s why he is crying and he ignores me after I told him around 5 times that the nappy needs to be done as baby isn’t settling… so I took the baby off him and did the nappy myself and took baby downstairs and said to husband enjoy your lay in 😂

I don’t understand why he couldn’t just do the nappy or take him downstairs like I do for him 😫

Is anyone else’s husband like this?

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Yep we have 2 other kids as well one being a toddler. She usually wakes about 6 so I'm up every day 😴 said I'm having a lay in the next day as was his day off.
Well the toddler comes in and wakes us all up and and he either goes back to sleep or sits and chats with her. Im like thanks for my lay in!
Sometimes he's really good and will quietly take all the kids downstairs and let me lay in but rarely I have to be beyond exhausted for that 😫

My husband has done this once. I take full responsibilities of our baby Monday through Friday. I do every single diaper change and every single bottle feed as my husband does engineering work and wakes up very early. I had no problem making this arrangement with him whilst we were both in the understanding that when the weekend came along, his dad duties would be expected full force so that I could get some more rest and “me time” when he’s off work and able to be more hands on. A couple weekends ago our baby woke up for her feeding and change around 7 am and as discussed it was time for him to do his dad thing and let me sleep in. I asked him about 6-7 times while the baby was crying to get up and address it. He kept scrolling on his phone as if our child wasn’t screaming in absolute hunger lol, in what I do not claim as my proudest moment I snapped at him threw the wipes and a bottle at his head and walked away. We deserve help from the ones who helped make the babies.

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Well, it finally happened.

My 2.5 yo woke up last night screaming for Mommy and Daddy, terrified like she had never screamed before, and when I went in to check on her, she told me she had heard a ghost.

The monster and ghost checks have begun.

Breast feeding/sleep.

I love breast feeding, it’s quick and easy for me. However, I used to do both, bottle and boob. Until I was told not to use a bottle which I wish I never listened to as all it has done is cause me stress 😭
My 13 week old uses me to soothe, which is normal for a EBF baby, but he doesn’t want to unlatch and he also contact naps. So I never catch a break and no one can get him to nap EVER, he will literally scream until he’s latched.

He will only nap on the boob. It’s exhausting as I am a human dummy. He won’t nap by rocking, white noise, patting, etc, trust me, I’ve tried everything since he was 5 weeks old, he just hates sleep.
I am wanting to introduce bottles again, slowly and not to upset him. But the crying kills me.

Should I start with 1 bottle in the evening before he goes to bed? With my partner doing this? I’m aware this is a slow process but I worry he won’t ever nap unless he’s on me or would he start to come out of this as he grows anyway?
Recently he has been getting a little better, I can unlatch him, even if it takes several attempts. He’s also been able to nap in the pram for 15 minutes which is amazing.
Do they start to be able to fall asleep in other ways as they get older?

Has anyone’s baby had this before? What is it?

My daughter woke up from a nap and that’s when I noticed it. She’s been very fussy today and chewing more than usual.

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