Engorged boobs

Hi I am post birth & it’s day one of engorged boobs due to me not breast feeding . Is there any way to make myself more comfortable? It is radiating pain so much & they’re rock solid . Any advice please?

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Is life ruined

I feel like no one will ever love me or like me and my child I’m a single pregnant mom at 22 feel like this is gonna mess up my love life it’s already making me disgusted that I don’t know the baby’s father I’m disgusted with myself and my life is ruined I had a baby to young… I’m sad my son he isn’t here yet but I’m no longer happy I’m just depressed depressed with myself…. Hate my life feel like no one will ever date me and I won’t be able to have anymore fun… I was just in a abusive relationship now this a lot of guys don’t like women with kids…

Help with getting my 2 week old in a routine

My husband goes back to work tomorrow doing 12 hr shifts and I think I will struggle with the sleep I wont be getting.

Anyone got an tips to get her in a routine. She screams when we bath her and then is crying for ages and then we give her a bottle after she has calmed down but stays awake for ages.

Any suggestions a first time mum can try.

Thank you ladies xxxx

Did moving your babies to their own room help them sleep better? (And also you) 🫠

My baby is almost seven months old and he has started to reject his crib, I used to be able to sleep with him on his crib next to me but now he wants to be in my bed, I love the concept of co- sleeping but my back hurts so much from it and sometimes I can’t even stand up in the morning. I read here that if you move them to their own room they don’t feel your smell and I thought maybe he would be able to sleep again in his crib (the first part of the night he is fine and sleeps almost three hours straight but the second half of the night he wants to sleep breastfeeding and I don’t think my body can take it)

Has anyone suffered post partum rage months later?

My son is now 20 months. I'm not sure if it's just the general tiredness and stress of having a toddler and the accumulation of never having a good night sleep....or hormones...but I am really struggling with depression, rage and short fuse these days. I hate it. I'm angry with him sometimes but I try not to show it, however I do lack patience. I get quickly angry with my partner....I seethe with rage about slow drivers and other stupid stuff. Obsessing about stuff. I don't know what it is :( and I don't know what to do....any tips?

Sleep regression 🫣

Anyone having any trouble with your baby waking more in the middle of the night. From 3am on we are every hour. My LO slept all night through before so it’s a big shock to the system 🫣

Breastfeeding

My baby is 6 days old and was due today, a May turned April baby!

Anyway, he was so sleepy during the days up until today, feeding all night. We saw the midwife yesterday on day 5 who said we should be waking him to feed every 2 hours, get him naked, annoy him until he feeds. We did that yesterday (albeit maybe more than every 2 hrs) then yesterday evening whilst my husband was bathing my almost 3 yr old (maybe about 7pm), the baby woke and fed, and fed and fed until about 1am when he was so fussy at the breast, I’d had enough and felt like he’d drunk me dry! I was in tears, so tired, frustrated and depleted. I passed the baby to my husband, who managed to settle him to sleep for a while so I could rest. I realise this is cluster feeding but it didn’t seem like he was getting anything, just us both getting more and more frustrated.

This has carried on into today, I feel like there’s no milk there for him. I am engorged, I’ve been massaging the breast, swapping sides and it seems the latch is good. He just doesn’t seem to get the good flow that he started with yesterday evening. He’s on and off like a yo yo, getting so so fussy, hands everywhere, shaking his head, screaming at me. It’s not nice.

It’s taken me a while to write this because he has been so on and off and fussy. It seems he’s had a good amount now because he’s just literally become the most content he’s been all day, and actually fallen sound asleep for one of the first times today.

Anyone else had this, is it normal?
Anything I’m doing wrong?

I struggled to breastfeed my first and supplemented with formula early and pumped etc but I’m reluctant to resort to formula unless I really need to. He’s being weighed again tomorrow and we have some feeding support at the hospital so hopefully get some answers but just thought I’d ask here too.