Vulnerability Post

Hey mummas

Just a little vulnerability post …

Im starting to feel guilty … baby girl is 4 weeks and formula fed !

Long story short but constantly hearing Breast is best and people asking me if she BF is starting to get to me …

I cant BF for reasons such as anatomy so I express but finding the time to express consistently is hard that i’m not producing much

And now I feel like I’m the reason for my baby girls discomfort because she hardly gets Breast Milk …

I love this little girl but mentally I’m struggling with my inability to give her Breast Milk

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I saw a post on insta from a woman who said ‘I breastfed my boy and he still got a face tattoo’ 😂 it makes it light hearted but also takes the seriousness out of the pressure.

I was breastfed for a year and still have asthma and thyroid issues so breast milk isn’t the magic formula for future health!

Give yourself a break ♥️

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Any amount of breastmilk has huge benefits compared to none at all! You’re choosing to do the best you can and that’s what counts x

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Fed is best. Period. Also, a healthy (mentally included) mom is best. If you gathered a group of adults into a room of physicians and asked them to identify who was formula fed and who got breast milk, they wouldn’t know. You are keeping that baby girl alive, loved, and safe and that is truly all that matters! Please give yourself some compassion and grace, that matters the most - it allows you to be your best version for her!

Also to add: if she is experiencing discomfort after feeding that doesn’t mean it’s because it’s not breast milk (breast milk fed babies get discomfort too!) but it might mean you need to try a different formula!

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You’re doing amazing momma! I’m a strong advocate for BF but will always and forever back anyone on that a fed baby is always best!!!! Especially one who has gone to the efforts you have to feed your baby and make sure she is full and loved!

Keep going and keep talking! Your voice is wanted and important in this conversation xxx

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People will put down mums any chance they get gosh! I was told its cause I was BF that my baby woke so much at night. Ignore all the noise and just cuddle your little one and enjoy them. As long as youre both healthy thats all that matters xx

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My midwife has told me always “fed is best” :) do what you need!

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