Does anybody else feel irritated / annoyed about their husbands/ boyfriends ? Is this normal?

First time mom to a baby that will be turning 7 months soon and I love her but it’s overwhelming , tiring and overstimulating at times to be a mom and to be a wife … I feel irritated towards my husband and feel stand offish towards him . He’s a good dad and tries to help as much as he can but I feel like even when he does help it irritates me or bothers me which I feel makes me crazy 😅 our relationship has been okay but I wouldn’t say I’m the happiest I’ve been or that we’re on “fire “ for each other it just feels bleh right now not bad but not good.. anybody have any advice ??

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They help out as best they can but they just never do it the way we would do it 🤣

Don’t worry our girl is 7 months too and I also find myself more annoyed at my husband at times. Especially at things I wouldn’t usually get annoyed at before I was even pregnant. This is just our hormones going up and down especially prolactin. It makes us put our guard up, defensive and protective and scrupulous. Being a mother is the biggest promotion in life however it has its costs and one of those I find is that I forget my husband and I are on a team. I need to trust him and appreciate everything he’s done even if it’s not exactly how I prefer. Because really we have a system in our heads and they can’t read our minds. Communication about everything you’re feeling and thinking is key here and it’s helped us both so much.
Get someone to babysit, go on REGULAR dates where you talk and put Everything on the table, from the things that require solutions to the things you can’t do much about❤️❤️

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Omg! We’re on the same wave length I just posted something similar! 🫣 feels a little better knowing I’m not alone

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Have you tried connecting with your husband? Like a few hours without the baby doing something you loved doing together from before. It’s hard to feel that fire when you have a little one who needs you both 24/7.

Personally I get major anxiety when anyone else has my baby but there are things that factor in to that because I exclusively breastfeed and my baby is only one month old.

Maybe try a parenting class together and talk to him about ways you can be better parents and partners.

Postpartum Depression shows up in many ways and can develop at anytime postpartum especially in the first year.
So if nothing else works to get you through this slump please go see a professional ❤️ wish you the best !

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