BLOCKED!

So I blocked my bd/partner (confusing lines) without any communication because i’m fed up! Doesn’t really look for his child or me, doesn’t provide mentally, emotionally, physically or financially (if he does, it’s after agesss of nagging and even then done reluctantly to make me feel bad for asking). just takes and takes and takes while putting me down. i’m a shell of my former self because of him. really done with it all but in two minds whether to text and explain but then it’s like what’s the point when he doesn’t listen?! i’ve raised our child by myself for the last 3 years and have actively encouraged him to partake in child’s life but always too ’busy’ or ‘not feeling well’ or just straight up ‘no another time’. i’ve missed out on a lot of opportunities and experiences with my child because it’s always ‘oh i’m busy, let’s do another time’. tries to take credit for my hard work as well like wtf.

i’ve put up with a lot of the years and have gained lots of trauma due to it. decided enough is enough and don’t want to teach my child that this is acceptable behaviour from someone who ‘loves’ you, especially a father. someone who they should be looking up to but instead being constantly let down. might not be a big deal now but i know it’ll matter when older.

thoughts?

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Nursery advice

Hi everyone

I wondered if anyone had any advice. I don’t want to come across as a naggy mum.

My little one started nursery at the end of March and he had a rough start. Constantly ill and off, so he hasn’t really settled. Drop off and pick ups are emotional, but we expected this.

We have had a few issues with the way nursery has been dealing with things. For example
- inconsistent reporting on the app
- things on the app that are not related to him
- not using our wipes and nappies
- giving him a dummy when he doesn’t have one
- giving him fish when he doesn’t eat it (they are aware of his dietary requirements)
- no pics / observations - last one we recieved was on March 28th
- staff not responding to our messages

We appreciate the main priority is looking after the children but the lack of communication or accountability leaves me uneasy.

We have raised this with the room leaders and staff and nothing has improved. We are now going to write to the nursery manager. Are we being unreasonable my raising our issues again ?

I find it wild people are offended that I rather give birth alone & have our son at home

I didn't realize how offensive it is to decide to give birth alone, knowing that your son is at home with their Dad/your husband... When I tell people this they are always like "I wouldn't be okay with that". I started getting rude with my responses telling them that it's a good thing it's not their son, baby or birth. I made this choice... Yes ME because having a new baby in the home is going to be stressful for our son, so instead of having him elsewhere with a stranger I would rather him be in the comfort of his own home with his Daddy. It doesn't bother me, I am excited and at peace with this. We don't do nursery, babysitters, childminders and such and my Mum/step Dad can't fly here on a whim... Too expensive for the stay, airfare, transport, food etc. I already worked out plans in case *knock on wood* something goes wrong and also there are plans for my husband to come in with our son. It is just wild to me the people that try to say "send your son here" "hire this person" like... No and no and no.

Does this plate look ok for lunch for a 13 month old…. Also ideas for lunches please

He won’t eat all of this but seems to like to have different bits to pick at. Any ideas for lunches would be good too as we run out of ideas all the time.

How would you feel?

It's my birthday today and my partner has taken the day off.

We are planning on going for dinner later and his sister having our two boys.

Whilst he was in the kitchen doing something his phone kept ringing (we are open with our phones and can go on then whenever). I said to him oh this woman has called you three times and left a message saying call her. I asked should I reply? And he said yeah tell her I'm on annual leave today. I also messaged his sister back about later.

He raised his voice at me after and said don't go down my phone. I said to him why do you have to have a go at me on my birthday? I did cry and just went into the garden.

Shortly after he asked if I was ok and I said no, why be funny on my birthday? He said whatever and I just said I don't want to go out later now and he said good, that's fine by me.

Would you be upset about this on your birthday? I'm fuming.

Advice ?

When is the right time to start applying for nursery’s ? I go back to work after a year off. Any advice?

Dirty butt from nursery

So on Thursday I picked my daughter up from nursery and came home and played a little. It was then time for her bath before bed and when I undressed her and took her nappy off I noticed she must've had a poopy diaper because her but crack wasn't completely clean. Now it wasn't disgustingly dirty but I'm expecting it to be clean y'know?

Now I know my daughter is in that stage where it's like wrestling an alligator to change her nappy but surely they should be used to this.

She's quite new to nursery and this was her second week. She poops daily and this was the only time she wasn't cleaned properly.

Do I let it go because it was a one time thing or do I bring it up to the nursery manager?