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When is the right time to start applying for nursery’s ? I go back to work after a year off. Any advice?

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I started looking at nursery’s at around 5 months in to my mat leave because everyone kept telling me there was a long waiting list, we viewed a couple and chose one that had no waiting list! One of them, we enquired in the October and he couldn’t get a space until the may. I think it’s area dependent . My little boy was 1 when he went to nursery xx

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I had to get on lists while in my second trimester as London waiting lists were very long. Definitely sooner rather than later!

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Id start looking as early as possible. Some have a year long waiting list some longer. Others have no waiting list. It can depend how many days you need. If you need 5 days then definetly sooner rather then later

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With my first I started enquiring a few weeks after he was born, they all had a nearly 18 month waiting list 😅
With my second I told them when I was 11 weeks pregnant 🤣

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I’d start enquiring as soon as possible. I reached out to local nurseries checking if I was being ridiculous enquiring so early (second trimester) but they reassured me now’s the time to get on the waiting list! So definitely worth checking locally, no harm in asking when to apply as it varies by area

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As soon as you can. Some nursery near me have 2 year waiting lists!

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I had to book mine while 3 months pregnant, as it's very popular and has an 18 month waitlist

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I booked mine when I was 8 months pregnant, some places had an 18m-2y waiting list so I couldn't even get into them

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We booked whilst halfway pregnant and a couple of options we wanted to see were already fully booked

Worth looking early and reserving your top option

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We are looking now for him to start in August and all near us have vacancies, no waiting list so it really is place dependant

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I was worried about waiting lists so he’s been down for a spot since I was 20 weeks pregnant. He’s 3 months now. Due to start when he’s 10 months old for one day a week and full time from Jan when I go back to work x

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