Am I bat shit?

I sent my child’s invitation ages ago to my brother and my brothers wife. My daughter was born ON THIS DAY. it’s hard to not realize this. I resend that invitation today cuz I’m just pissed. They decided to plan their wedding BEFORE MY CHILDS BIRTHDAY the day before at a LOCATION 8 HOURS AWAY. A fucking honeymoon destination. And now half my family won’t be at my child’s birthday INCLUDING MY DAD. MY DAD. Her GRANDPA. Becayse my brother comes first. My DAD hasn’t been to a SINGLE one of my child’s birthdays cuz he wasn’t sober. THIS IS THE YEAR HE IS AND HES MISSING HER BIRTHDAY for my brothers WEDDING that COULD HAVE BEEN PLANNED ON ANY OTHER WEEKEND.

May I add my brother is always coming first. He sees them before he sees us. Some days he sees them without telling us when I haven’t seen them for ages. (They live an hour away from both of us) I’m just so upset. And I was close with his wife and I was like I can’t even come cuz you know it’s my daughter’s birthday you said you’d be able to come to.. cuz your daughter is my daughters best friend. And now my daughter won’t even be able to see her friend that day either. I’m just so upset but maybe I’m being petty. It’s just it’s about my child idc about me it’s just deep because it’s my kid they won’t be showing up for.

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Yes this is me the patience yes I’m pregnant so maybe I’m just taking it more psycho than usual. It’s just adding up. It’s just becoming pent up. They’ve had ages to plan this wedding they’ve been engaged for years. I’m so upset. My husbands pissed. Im pissed for my child. I’m just enraged. She’s also canceled multiple hangouts before this and I found out it’s cuz she’s planning this wedding that I’m also the last to find out about. Cuz wtf.

(This is my fathers son who is my half sibling not the other two brothers from the last post❤️ I have 5 siblings)

I understand your family going to the wedding but why did he plan the wedding on the day of your daughter’s birthday when he had the invite and knew it?

Not cool and I’d be PISSED. I am so sorry 😢

Tbh if I was planning a wedding and there was a date that suited me, I wouldn't consider my nieces birthday. No one's birthday is as important to me than my wedding day.

Maybe you're frustrated about everything else they've been doing and this has just made you snap but I don't feel like the wedding situation is an issue at all. It is annoying but not to the point that I'd getting this enraged about it. ☺️

You're absolutely allowed to feel your feelings, but as someone who has planned a wedding recently.....it might have been the only weekend the venue had available, especially if it was shorter notice. I booked my venue 18 months in advance and they STILL only had one weekend available in the 3 month timeframe we wanted. I got married on my best friend's 5th anniversary because it was the only date we could book. She cancelled a vacation and never once said a mean word about it even though I would have 100% understood if she didn't make it to our wedding.

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