Anyone going through something similar

I used to be the same way. I never liked to ask for help but was quick to give help. But after having my first child I quickly realized that I needed all the help. And even though my husband was well into his army career he would still be gone for weeks at a time for trainings and things. And without my family and friends I would have never made it. And once he’s done with boot camp you’ll most likely be moved to a different location. And at that point you won’t have your support system right there. And even though you will have God, he also never intended us to do any of this alone. Having a good support system can make all the difference. And you don’t have to go big right away. Ask for help with little things. I would ask for my MIL to watch the baby just so that I could take a shower. Just take it one step at a time. Start little. Asking for help isn’t the end of the world. It could make the difference for you while your husband is away.

Having a village helps and I see you recognize who your village is. However, by experience with my babygirl, the first few weeks are hard, you’re up every couple of hours for weeks. I know you may not think that you need help and probably used to being independent, I was the same way but having my partner there helping, helped me get the rest that I oh so needed. If you feel comfortable, find 1 person atleast to be your partner through this, your mom, his mom. Somebody for atleast the first week and see how you feel after. I know some moms can do it because they HAVE to, but trust me even for the first few days, have someone there with you, to help feed you, take baby when you need rest, someone who will make sure you take care of yourself as well.
But also, do what’s best for you but by experience, my partner helped me tremendously. Even when I didn’t want to sleep to care for her he made me sleep and I don’t regret that one bit because I needed to be looked after as well. Goodluck

Firstly, I empathize with your situation. My husband deployed with the Navy when I was 12 days postpartum. Secondly, take the help!! A healthy mom equals a healthy baby. Meaning if you are well cared for, you can be at your best for your little one. Especially with this being your first. I still have a hard time accepting help and I have two. It sounds like you have a solid village. They will be crucial in getting you through your delivery and postpartum period.