Weird
My husband works a lot. He often starts work at 6 AM so has been quite tired. Yesterday I made him a dinner with salmon, egg and other sides. Today he asked for "the salmon and eggs like yesterday." So I made the whole plate that I did yesterday including all of the sides. Today, when he came home, the food was ready for him on the plate. Our 6 month old was asleep on me in the carrier and I was washing the dishes. He barely said hello before saying "This is less salmon than yesterday." I said "yeah, because there's only two pieces left now, I thought to try and make it last." He replied "But I asked for salmon and eggs. I didn't want all this other stuff" I was confused because there was salmon and egg on his plate. I said "Oh, I thought you wanted it like yesterday." He just took the plate and mumbled a thankyou.
After washing up, I sat down to eat too, which was half a plantain and some carrots. Because I dont eat salmon and I am too tired to make two things right now. We dont really speak. I ask about the traffic, if he wanted a drink or anything else and it was all kind of declined/ shut down. When he finished eating he got up, put his plate in the sink and walked back over and began complaining about how I gave him tiny pieces of salmon and wasting it by giving some to our daughter. Then asked me if I knew how much he spent on the salmon. Then he left the room saying its always all about our daughter.
The wholeeee thing I thought was so strange. I took half of a salmon yesterday to make for our daughter, which I will use up until tomorrow. Half a salmon for three days. I just thought we buy food for the family to eat, so what if she is eating it? I understand the waste but she is weaning and needs to eat. Then I also thought saying its always about her whilst sulking out of the room was weird. We are parents, are we not supposed to prioritise our daughter. Then I dont understand why he didn't feel prioritised. I was trying to save the rest of the salmon for him. I paused looking after our daughter to make only him a whole meal. Even asking what he wants every night even if it means I have to make 3 seperate meals for myself, him and my daughter. All running on 5 hours of sleep and exhaustion from looking after a baby all day by myself.
Now he has gone to bed.
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Im sorry but hes a narcissist. My husband would give up his whole plate for our daughter to eat. You're doing entirely too much too, I rarely cook dinner for my husband alone. We cook together when he gets home. He would never dare complain and is always thankful if I make the meal alone. I think your husband doesnt realize how good he has it. And yeh my husband leaves home at 5am and sometimes doesnt get home til 8pm. Your husband is a grown ass man he can cook his own food if he doesnt like how you do things.
He won’t give the baby a piece of salmon? It’s so good for them all the healthy fats and vitamins.
What an entitled dick. I’m sorry but wtf? 😳 he’s upset that you fed your child so he got a smaller portion what he didn’t even actually communicate properly he wanted? Nope. That’s past weird, that red flag quality of concerning. Does he even realize he’s treating you like a waitress? 😒
Moving forward. Does he plan to buy separate food for her then? Or? Because he needs to realize she’s just going to eat even more and it is in fact about the SMALL HUMAM THAT RELIES ON YOU FOR LIFE. 😑
We didn't have the exact same situation but me and my partner used to fight a lot about dinner. So in the end he was in charge of his own dinner and I was in charge of mine and the baby's... we both went shopping, bought our own things and cooked our own meals. I think we would have murdered each other if we hadn't done this, it saved sooo many arguments. And whenever we felt like it, one of us would make a meal for both of us
The audacity to say the salmon was wasted on his own child is absolutely wild to me! And for him to sulk is even worse! This is a red flag to me! Tell him he can get his own meals from now on. But honestly the way he spoke about your child I would probably end the relationship cuz I will always put my kids needs first and I would not want my child to grow up with a man who thought that about his child!
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