Feeling guilty..

I’ve recently had my second baby and it’s made me realise how ready my 4yo is to go to school.

I found it quite easy when it was just me and him. I’m a SAHM and he only goes to preschool 9 hours a week which I coped with fine like we would do lots together but now I’ve got another little one to consider and raise I feel like I need a break from him more than ever & that makes me feel really awful.

Is this normal? I feel like a bad mum like it seems I’m trying to get rid of him but I just find having both of them all day together ALOT.
How did you find the transition from 1 - 2 kids?

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It’s okay to feel like that. I have two also, 3years old and 1 year old. And ngl, it is hard and my oldest goes nursery 2 days aweek and it’s alittle easier but still a lot to deal.
Just like you I did find my first easier and now a second, it is something to abjust too. Maybe when baby is napping, spend time with your 4year old and make the most of what.
You’re definitely not a bad mum.

You’re doing good. 😊

Honestly the juggle is HARD!! My eldest is 3.5 and isn’t in any kind of childcare, and I honestly wish some days that I got my button gear and had sorted some kind of childcare for when my daughter was born.. but I also know that it’s such a privilege to get to spend the first (what will be) 4 years of his life with him, as he starts preschool in September.

You’re not a bad mum at all!! Mum guilt is woven into every aspect of mum life. You know you’re a good mum when you wonder if you’re doing a good enough job. 😘😘

You shouldn’t feel any guilt about sending a child to school

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Is anyone else being baby led?

I keep reading how lots of mums are trying to get their baby into what seems like a military routine with feeding, naps, and bedtime. Am I the only one who is letting my baby do his thing, and I go with him ? I feel a little lost. It has been 11 years since my last

Weaning drama

We started this week on Monday, first try wasn’t that bad she had few teaspoons but the last 2 days she didn’t even want to try a small bit.
She’s not big eater but I’m worried that she will never wants to eat..
any suggestions 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

BTW she’s teething and fighting bottles too.

Just curious, how would you feel?

I was in my room sorting several loads of laundry & my dad called (who we haven't spoken to in a while) so I was on the phone with him & had my kids come say hi. We were chatting and hubby came home, walked in & said "what are all these kids doing in my room?" while I was on the phone. When I got off the phone I let him know why. He said we could have talked to my dad in the hallway. I was in the middle of sorting loads of laundry, I told him I wasn't going to stop what I was doing just to get up & move to the hallway to have a 5 minute convo. Plus our hallway is so small/short it shouldn't even be considered a hallway. I mentioned how the kids come in our room to get dressed & get their lotion on after a bath and things like that, and he said all that can/should be done somewhere else also. When I made the comment about how I wasn't gonna go out my way to do that, he said something about me not obeying his rules. I said "obey" is crazy! Thoughts please?
For some context, we don't like the kids in our room because they're always messing something up & getting into things. Which I understand. But I didnt know he was so strict about it to the point where it would be a problem for them to be in there supervised for just a couple minutes.

School

Just seeing who has already applied for their LO to go to preschool already?
I didn’t know we needed to apply and now I’m stressing

Excuses

My partner keeps using the excuse that 'he wont be here when hes back in work' to either get out of doing something or because ive called him out for not doing something or doing something wrong.

How do I deal with this because on one hand it upsets me because I feel like he saying I'm going to be an incompetent mum, even though i know im not and ive done days by myself in and out the house but on the other hand (like ive said to him) while hes here im going to use him for help/to do his part because why take time off if hes not going to use it to be a dad and help.

Advise?

I think my marriage is over

Me and my husband have been arguing a lot recently and we got into two arguments last night he got upset moved all his things out the room including his nightstand , he no longer want to take my son (not biologically his) to the bus stop anymore or pick him up from after school camp (we only have one car ) he stated that we are separated and refuses to have a conversation . I think it’s a chance my marriage is over we have been down this road so many times and now I’m feeling like what am I gonna do to prepare for a life without him I have been with this man since I was 18 I’m almost 26 now I’m a Sahm with no car or income I have never done life without him my oldest son also doesn’t know my husband his not his bio dad . I’m not sure what to do I want my marriage to work I do but being down this road so many times what if I have to prepare for a life without him