Was this unethical? Therapist edition lol
I had a therapist 6 years ago who was great. We did a lot of good work together and it was always professional. Emotional, of course I mean obviously, but no lines were ever crossed. We ended our therapeutic journey and then had check ins about every 3 months or so. The check ins were brief interactions- how are the babies, spouses, what’s new, so good hearing from you bye.
A few weeks ago he texted me about his wife leaving him and he found messages btwn her and an older man. (Emotional not physical cheating) He knows that my partner cheated a long time ago so I’m kind of experienced with this and he was asking me what tools I used to help heal from the trauma. I told him and from that point on we were texting every day. He would vent and ask for advice, disclose thoughts and feelings and then other times it was just casual chatter about favorite drinks and what we like to do with our babies for fun. He called me his friend.
Then today he tells me his wife wants to come back and that means he can’t talk to me anymore. He’ll check in every few months and that’s it.
I guess I’m sad. I’m not attracted to him in any way, to be clear. I was hoping she would come back to him and commit to trying again. I want good things for them but damn this just hurt. I guess maybe I’m dumb for believing that we were actually friends.
Hear me out… tell me what you will do if you were me!!
You and your our husband both have a child before getting together and two together. The first child’s mother doesn’t want him to be involved in the child life because he has other kids from his wive and cause he got married and not to her. The child has been to the house only when it convenient for the mama. And only been around the other siblings about 3 times. As the wives I’ve tried to be the bigger person and help her as best as I could and not be nasty towards her. However, she has called DCF multiple times saying all kinds of nasty things. The child had choked our youngest child and beat on the other with different objects. The child is told he don’t have to listen to me or eat anything I cook. His dad with feed him and etc. he has broken my children game systems, ruined shoes and clothes, toys everything then tell his mom he’s being mistreated over here. When he get the same a my kids. The only thing is my kids have iPhones/ iPads and he has android and that’s bc I brought them not dad. Btw I can’t discipline him or he don’t have to follow house rules cause his mom say say so. The kids ages as follows oldest to youngest…. 11(mines), 8(his), 6(ours) and 5(ours). Hubby tries to play middle man and keep the peace but it’s becoming too much. On top of that the kids had graduation and prom on the same day different schools. 11 has graduation, 5 prom and 8 graduation all the same day. She wants him to come but not me and our kids. But want the gifts for him. I said if I can’t go I’m not giving anything or doing anything.. advice please mamas….
Just curious, how would you feel?
I was in my room sorting several loads of laundry & my dad called (who we haven't spoken to in a while) so I was on the phone with him & had my kids come say hi. We were chatting and hubby came home, walked in & said "what are all these kids doing in my room?" while I was on the phone. When I got off the phone I let him know why. He said we could have talked to my dad in the hallway. I was in the middle of sorting loads of laundry, I told him I wasn't going to stop what I was doing just to get up & move to the hallway to have a 5 minute convo. Plus our hallway is so small/short it shouldn't even be considered a hallway. I mentioned how the kids come in our room to get dressed & get their lotion on after a bath and things like that, and he said all that can/should be done somewhere else also. When I made the comment about how I wasn't gonna go out my way to do that, he said something about me not obeying his rules. I said "obey" is crazy! Thoughts please?
For some context, we don't like the kids in our room because they're always messing something up & getting into things. Which I understand. But I didnt know he was so strict about it to the point where it would be a problem for them to be in there supervised for just a couple minutes.
