I find it wild people are offended that I rather give birth alone & have our son at home

I didn't realize how offensive it is to decide to give birth alone, knowing that your son is at home with their Dad/your husband... When I tell people this they are always like "I wouldn't be okay with that". I started getting rude with my responses telling them that it's a good thing it's not their son, baby or birth. I made this choice... Yes ME because having a new baby in the home is going to be stressful for our son, so instead of having him elsewhere with a stranger I would rather him be in the comfort of his own home with his Daddy. It doesn't bother me, I am excited and at peace with this. We don't do nursery, babysitters, childminders and such and my Mum/step Dad can't fly here on a whim... Too expensive for the stay, airfare, transport, food etc. I already worked out plans in case *knock on wood* something goes wrong and also there are plans for my husband to come in with our son. It is just wild to me the people that try to say "send your son here" "hire this person" like... No and no and no.

in our community

Am I bat shit?

I sent my child’s invitation ages ago to my brother and my brothers wife. My daughter was born ON THIS DAY. it’s hard to not realize this. I resend that invitation today cuz I’m just pissed. They decided to plan their wedding BEFORE MY CHILDS BIRTHDAY the day before at a LOCATION 8 HOURS AWAY. A fucking honeymoon destination. And now half my family won’t be at my child’s birthday INCLUDING MY DAD. MY DAD. Her GRANDPA. Becayse my brother comes first. My DAD hasn’t been to a SINGLE one of my child’s birthdays cuz he wasn’t sober. THIS IS THE YEAR HE IS AND HES MISSING HER BIRTHDAY for my brothers WEDDING that COULD HAVE BEEN PLANNED ON ANY OTHER WEEKEND.

May I add my brother is always coming first. He sees them before he sees us. Some days he sees them without telling us when I haven’t seen them for ages. (They live an hour away from both of us) I’m just so upset. And I was close with his wife and I was like I can’t even come cuz you know it’s my daughter’s birthday you said you’d be able to come to.. cuz your daughter is my daughters best friend. And now my daughter won’t even be able to see her friend that day either. I’m just so upset but maybe I’m being petty. It’s just it’s about my child idc about me it’s just deep because it’s my kid they won’t be showing up for.

Why is everyone obsessed with giving my child junk food 😅

I need to vent!
Since we started veaning everyone has been desperate to give my child sweets and chocolate and god knows what else…..
I’m a really into healthy eating and taking care of myself so naturally I do the same for my daughter.
I have been able to kind of fob them off saying oh yeah she would choke on that or whatever but now she’s turned one everyone keeps giving her stuff when they look after her that I don’t want her eating.

Also I’m not a monster she will have treats on special occasions it’s just not something that’s in our everyday diet so don’t want her to start expecting it. when she’s being looked after I give them plenty of pre cooked meals and snacks so it’s not like she’s even hungry

Will they get over this phase? Has anyone else come across this? Every time I kind of address it everyone just laughs and says give the girl the cake 😅

Husband acts weird about my cleaning habits. Am I the wrong one here?

Our baby is 3 months and I’m a FTM. I have been trying to force myself into very regular routines of up-keeping the house, bathing baby regularly, caring for pets, etc. etc. That makes sweeping an every-few-days kind of chore.

My husband always says I can hand the baby off to him while I’m doing chores or finishing projects around the house. He does a little cleaning, but he’s a lot more nonchalant about it all.

He’s been acting perturbed lately, thinking I’m being manic and having to stop and clean the whole house down, but it’s just sweeping, dishes, laundry, mural painting (weekends), pet, and baby care.

It’s just how we gotta be as a parent right? Any advice on how to make the daily processes less exhausting?

Husband broke up with me

Ex-husband broke up with me after us having a toxic relationship for almost 2 years. He dint want to have sex anymore and blamed me 100% for the relationship. I told him that although I started the fights at the beginning of the relationship he started hella disrespecting me and now it’s our job to fix it together. He said no. Would you guys get together with a guy that said “I’ll sell your nudes for my dream truck, BUT NO ONE I know can know about it” told me to
“shut up” while I cried in pregnancy once and after. Said “I’m annoying”
“I’m so tired of your bullshit”
“I don’t have time for this”
“ you’re the reason my life went down hill” “it’s your fault I gained weight”
“I feel trapped I can’t do things I wanted when I was single”
“ it’s all excuses”
“I see you as the mother of my child, I’m not in love with you anymore”
“ you ruined this family” bc I would cry for everything
“You’re not my dream wife”
“I didn’t sign up for this”

He left for a trip and told me “I’m super excited to leave and not have someone🫵🏻 argue in my ear 24/7”
“I don’t want a relationship”
“If you really love me you would’ve clean and cook” I did but not constantly
“I love you a little bit but not as before, sorry”

He broke up with me but expects me to hangout maybe once a month just the two of us. I did last week and treated him like a friend, I noticed he did not like that at all. Therefore he wants me to be his friend but a little more that but no relationship. He wants to travel, come home and hop on the game without thinking about nothing. And I really do miss him but at some point I need self respect and dignity. I done beg him. What do you guys think

Nursery advice

Hi everyone

I wondered if anyone had any advice. I don’t want to come across as a naggy mum.

My little one started nursery at the end of March and he had a rough start. Constantly ill and off, so he hasn’t really settled. Drop off and pick ups are emotional, but we expected this.

We have had a few issues with the way nursery has been dealing with things. For example
- inconsistent reporting on the app
- things on the app that are not related to him
- not using our wipes and nappies
- giving him a dummy when he doesn’t have one
- giving him fish when he doesn’t eat it (they are aware of his dietary requirements)
- no pics / observations - last one we recieved was on March 28th
- staff not responding to our messages

We appreciate the main priority is looking after the children but the lack of communication or accountability leaves me uneasy.

We have raised this with the room leaders and staff and nothing has improved. We are now going to write to the nursery manager. Are we being unreasonable my raising our issues again ?

Visiting others

How do you visit family & friends knowing there houses are not baby-proofed? For example candles and vases on the coffee table, plants, stairs, sharp edges, wobbly lamps, fire place …

Sometimes i just want to stay home and not visit ppl because i don’t really enjoy! all I am worried about is my toddler’s safety also stopping her from braking things😅

My daughter is 14 months and she is so curious about everything especially when she is in a new place 🌚

Btw i do take her toys and busy book with me wherever i go but that’s doesn’t really help.