Visiting others

How do you visit family & friends knowing there houses are not baby-proofed? For example candles and vases on the coffee table, plants, stairs, sharp edges, wobbly lamps, fire place …

Sometimes i just want to stay home and not visit ppl because i don’t really enjoy! all I am worried about is my toddler’s safety also stopping her from braking things😅

My daughter is 14 months and she is so curious about everything especially when she is in a new place 🌚

Btw i do take her toys and busy book with me wherever i go but that’s doesn’t really help.

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I pretty much walk in and baby proof myself. I will move vases etc somewhere safe and just let the host know
I guess if it were someone I didnt know well, id explain and ask first.
Id also request the door from the lounge is kept shut. However, my sisters is open plan, so I moved a bit of furniture to block the stairs.

If someone has an issue with me keeping my son safe, then I probably dont want to be there anyway

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Only time I’ve ever baby proofed someone else’s house is a baby gate at the top of the stairs at my mums when we stay over. Everything else just stays where it is and just never had an issue. They’ll look and might touch but it’s not like they’re just flinging vases around 😂

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It tends to be as it happens situation that the ornaments get higher and higher. This is mostly at my parents. Although my son was very interested in taking all the books off the shelf so that was annoying plus my mum had it all in alphabetical order.

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the child naturally learns how to move in non baby proof environments but they need exposure to it , go for 1 hour just to stop by and build on that time , youll be surprised how well they do! you might have to hover and redirect them from touching something they shouldnt but its very necessary for their development in understanding danger and safety

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You have to keep eyes on baba the whole visit this was me the other day at my brothers.

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I usually propose not meeting at their place. Either they come to me or we meet somewhere child appropriate.

If we do go it’s just keep an eye out always for the kid

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Visiting others

How do you visit family & friends knowing there houses are not baby-proofed? For example candles and vases on the coffee table, plants, stairs, sharp edges, wobbly lamps, fire place …

Sometimes i just want to stay home and not visit ppl because i don’t really enjoy! all I am worried about is my toddler’s safety also stopping her from braking things😅

My daughter is 14 months and she is so curious about everything especially when she is in a new place 🌚

Btw i do take her toys and busy book with me wherever i go but that’s doesn’t really help.

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