When to announce?
Hi mommas! I was hoping I could get some thoughts…
I’m currently in week 13 of my second pregnancy- my first one with a supportive and loving partner/ fiancé. I’m terrified of telling people because I was pregnant with my first as a solo mom at 21/22. The reception for that one was the majority of people in my life telling me to abort my baby, people who I thought would be my supportive community, who acted like I was having an irresponsible teen pregnancy. I don’t want to lightly throw around the word trauma but I do feel that that experience had a strong negative emotional impact on me. It has since made it hard for me to feel excited to announce my engagement, even though everyone loves my fiancé. I’m now terrified to announce my pregnancy this time around (I’m now 25 going on 26) even though I know the reception will likely be worlds different. I think I have a lot of unprocessed hurt from the first time and was wondering when everyone would suggest announcing this time around? I’m very scared to burst this bubble of safety and almost feel like not telling everyone which isn’t doable because I won’t be able to hide my belly the whole time. Any thoughts would be appreciated- I’m sorry for the long read.
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You could wait until 20 weeks and announce baby and gender all at once and protect your peace a little bit longer 🤷🏼♀️
I am so sorry that you had to experience that. I don’t think any mom should have to hear those words. You could tell people when you feel comfortable about sharing, or you could not say anything until someone asks about your belly getting bigger. Ultimately it is only about you and you partner having a baby together and what you feel comfortable with. Hope this helps❤️
I am 27 (going to be 28 when baby is here) and nearly everyone acted like I am having a teenage pregnancy as well 😂 even though I am getting married in 6 weeks lol. my mum had me and my twin sister at 21/22 as well 😊
I second Hannah’s advice though. 20 weeks seems a sweet deal as long as you don’t really show before that. If yes, you might need to tell them sooner. Good luck and I am sure some of them are going to be happy. After all you know have a supportive partner and fiance
I had my first at 19 without a partner too. I now have a husband and two more kids. I’d try to discuss the best time with your fiancé. This go around, it’s not just “you” announcing it. It’s “you and your fiancé” announcing it. You are having a baby together and that is exciting even if you feel trauma from the first time. You’re going to have help in them no matter what everyone else says so see your fiancés excitement and build off of that together. It’s truly a completely different experience having your man be there for it all. Best of luck with building that excitement and telling everyone!
I waited until I felt that I was in the headspace to deal with any type of reaction. It made things much more peaceful for me
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