Marital advice
Me and my husband have been together since I was 19 (now 37), married 12 years and have 2 children. We still get on great, regularly intimate, I’ve felt very blessed until this point..
I’ve recently found out however that when my second born was 2 weeks old, my husband went away on a work trip and was removed from the trip due to a night out where he’d gotten very wasted,taken drugs, and then proceeded to try it on with this woman so much to the point she reported him to the manager the next day.
At the time he said he decided to come home because it was too much with the baby etc.
it is now 7 months later when I’ve found out.
He said firstly he wasn’t trying with her and hes fucked up by reading the room wrong etc but then also says he doesn’t remember as so out of it and it’s a little back tracky. The story is way too vague, I feel he’s withholding what really happened and for the woman to have reported him i believe something happened. Thankfully the reports aren’t for anything physical.
Now i know nothing “happened” as clearly the woman wasn’t interested, but i feel betrayed his attention was for something to and that he’d behave that way whilst im at home with my mother looking after a 2 week old baby.
Hes very remorseful and wants to do anything to make sure we stay together and as a family… i feel if no kids were around we’d at least be separated for a month or so but obviously kids make it so much harder.
As far as im aware this is an isolated incident.
Just not sure what to do! How do people work around such conflicts when children are involved.