Siblings sharing a bed

What’s everyone’s view on sisters sharing a double bed with a 4-year age gap?

I’ve just had a baby girl, and we also have a stepdaughter and son who stay with us every other week. We’re looking at moving house, and the girls will be sharing a room. My stepdaughter has said she’d love a big bed so she can share with her little sister, and honestly I really love the idea because I want them to have as close a bond as possible — especially as they won’t be together every night since the older two aren’t with us full time.

I’m just curious what other people think about this and whether it’s something you’d do?

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Not until the baby is at least 18months/2years personally.

I don't see a massive problem with it when the little one is a fair bit both older, however it's pretty likely that your stepdaughter will change her mind when she's older/youngest isn't a teeny baby so I wouldn't get too attached to the idea 😊 and the reality of sharing a bed with a toddler might not match the snuggles she thinks might happen so I'm not sure it's something I would plan for!

firstly, for legal reasons both kids need to have "their own bed" even if one doesn't get used so keep that in mind. other than that, as a kid that shared a bed with my sisters growing up just make sure you're prepared to tell the younger one they can't sleep in sisters bed anymore when older sister grows out of it because she will grow out of it and if you force her to keep sharing because little sis doesn't wanna stop older sis will grow resentment and annoyance with you and little sis. that's what happened to us. my sister and i do not speak (for a lot of reasons) outside of family events and even then barely. if you want them to be close make sure you're respecting and enforcing their boundaries with each other even if the other doesn't like it.

My 6 year old daughter & 2 year old son share a double bed every night. They love it, both sleep 10-12 hours straight through! (It was both of their decisions btw) I know it won’t last forever and they will both want their own space at some point, but I’m just going with the flow. They’ve shared a bed for 9 months now & in the 6 years of being a parent this is the most sleep I have ever had! I am love it!! 100% recommend!

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Siblings sharing a bed

What’s everyone’s view on sisters sharing a double bed with a 4-year age gap?

I’ve just had a baby girl, and we also have a stepdaughter and son who stay with us every other week. We’re looking at moving house, and the girls will be sharing a room. My stepdaughter has said she’d love a big bed so she can share with her little sister, and honestly I really love the idea because I want them to have as close a bond as possible — especially as they won’t be together every night since the older two aren’t with us full time.

I’m just curious what other people think about this and whether it’s something you’d do?