Saw another post about rear facing vs forward facing and was just amazed at responses….

The fear mongering around forward facing is incredible… rear facing obviously is preferable but people talk about it as if the alternative is negligent.
Rear-facing being safest often gets interpreted emotionally as “forward-facing is unsafe.” And they just are not the same thing.

I’ve got 3 kids and have done both for different reasons… Living in 2026, forward facing seats are continuously designed to be safer each year. Just wanted to put it out there as we often feel like we aren’t doing enough or are constantly scrutinised as mothers anyway. Do what’s best for your child, you aren’t a bad parent.

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Forward facing in a crash IS unsafe. Doesn’t mean your child will instantly burst into flames BUT it’s 5x safer to rear face and can reduce risk of internal decapitation. Is that not a good thing? 😂 I’d rather my kid’s head stay attached and working tbf.

In the UK it’s the law for the car seat to be rear facing until the child is 15 months due to safety concerns, so I wouldn’t say that’s fear mongering, and suggesting anything else is unlawful at the least and for good reason

I’m not talking about using forward facing before was deemed lawful. And I’m by NO means saying they’re on par, I acknowledge that rear facing is absolutely safer. But not everyone chooses to forward face for fun. Everyone’s circumstances lead to different choices. My point was that forward facing isn’t unsafe, it just isn’t as safe as. There’s a difference that not everyone acknowledges and it can make people feel incredible guilt.

It is safer to sit rear facing for everyone really. Its not always possible for everyone. But you do ideally want fo rear face until the child's 5. Their spine does need time to fuse properly. Its better a broken leg then a broken spine.

should have specified I don’t mean like 15-16 months or scraping what’s legal, more for age 2-4.

2 out of 3 of my children rear raced for 5 years, my middle would kick and scream and push seat back, I made the decision to forward face because the constant distraction and tantrums to driver felt more unsafe. I felt so much guilt doing this and only because of comments like under the other ladies post, but it honestly made driving and journeys so much better for us…

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Anyone faced this issue?

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Hey Mommas,
Our daughter is 18months co-sleeps. She started out in a crib, and moved her into a cot (still in our bedroom) at 6months, but when she was 10months old she was really sick, in and out of hospital, so we wanted to give her more comfort when she got home and put her in bed with us. After that we couldn't bear to not have her in bed with us, and she's been a fantastic sleeper ever since.

However, since she's been in our bed, our sex life has completely died because obviously she's in there with us, but we're also not at a stage where we can leave her in our bed by herself to have couple's time elsewhere in the house.

When does this change?

Transition to own room, cot or floor bed?

I have been cosleeping with my lo since he was 6 months, and he's now 10 months old.
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I'm considering getting him a floor bed. 1 so he can lots of space and 2 if he ever needs me in bed with him I can easily just go there but my questions when they figure out they can't get out of bed how do you stop them because with a cot its got the sides so they can't get out but what about a floor bed? How are we keeping them safe? All I can think is when he gets to like toddler age he'll likely be in and out bed a lot.

Does your partner help with the night shift?

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