Nonexistent sex life
Hey Mommas,
Our daughter is 18months co-sleeps. She started out in a crib, and moved her into a cot (still in our bedroom) at 6months, but when she was 10months old she was really sick, in and out of hospital, so we wanted to give her more comfort when she got home and put her in bed with us. After that we couldn't bear to not have her in bed with us, and she's been a fantastic sleeper ever since.
However, since she's been in our bed, our sex life has completely died because obviously she's in there with us, but we're also not at a stage where we can leave her in our bed by herself to have couple's time elsewhere in the house.
When does this change?
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It's up to your discretion when it changes. Why can't yall go elsewhere at this point? Also what about during naps?
I disliked our bed rails so we did a floor bed. Would you be willing to use a floor bed? You can also maybe put pillows at the opening. She's old enough that pillows near aren't really a concern
We have side bed rails on our bed in case of rolling and my baby has mastered getting down feet first at the bottom of the bed. That and a motion sensor on the baby monitor is the set up we've got. Usually the first hour or so at night is pretty deep sleep where we can sneak away and back, more like 30 minutes on naps depending on the day 😂
Also, would you consider putting a floor bed in her room that you all can sleep in, and you two could sneak off to your bedroom occasionally? That way she has her own bed, you all can co sleep, you keep your own bed, and get sexy time
I have a floor bed next to the main bed. We have a king and on the floor is a double. I’m not sure if this is something you guys can set up or maybe a single. It lets you put baby to sleep on the floor bed and you can move to the big bed. It stops the feeling of baby hurting themselves. Because if they did wake up and move around it’s not very far to the floor. It helps you to be able to get out for bed for a bit and if you need to, you can join baby in bed too.
Never trust a co sleepers sofa, the saying goes!
My little one was in our bed with a bed rail, we would have the monitor on her at all times and if she rolled too close to the side we would just go in and move her. We are in a flat so it's easier to run to her if she was too close to the edge. She's now on a floor bed in her own room, still with a bed rail because she still manages to roll off.
Thank you for your comments, I'm not sure if a floor bed would work because she's really cuddly with us and if she can't touch us she instantly reaches around in her sleep till she can. If she can't reach us she'll start to wake up, say if I've dashed to the toilet or something
My little one was the same, it took a good week or two for her to stop waking up whenever she was alone. She now sleeps better by herself! Every little is different though so I understand
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