Refusing potty training

Have tried before she turn 3 and now trying again.
But she’s just not interested. Got her to sit on the potty/toilet the odd time but nothing has happened. Most of the time she just refuses. I don’t want to force it as I don’t want her to become scared of it.
Got all the books, sticker charts, rewards etc.

Any tips or tricks.
Or just to know I’m not the only one.

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Get loads of pants and bottoms, not wear nappies for a few days. When they wear nappy they don’t realise they wet themselves as absorbs well.

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In the same boat over here. Absolute refusal. He just turned 3.
Just pants or bare bum and it was just accidents all day and did not want to use the potty / toilet.
I'm going to try again in the summer months when I have a bit more time.
We've had 2 attempts do far. Fingers crossed 3rd time lucky!

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I have a December 2022 child almost 3 and a half and I've only just started having him naked at home with loose trousers on. Even if you start that way n gradually build it up so it isn't a big thing. Once I've done this for a while going to do pants in the summer months! It's hard work she'll get there mama xx

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I've also tried 4 times and was same as u accidents constantly! He's not having near half as many now xx

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I tried all the sticker charts, bribes etc so hard when there's alot of refusal! Every child's different just have to go at there pace xxx

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We’re in the same boat here too. Tried a few times now 🤯 Our LG just doesn’t seem to know the feeling of when it’s coming 🤯 She is willing to be naked/wear knickers, but we just have lots of wet accidents. She has done a few wees on the potty & will also sit on the toilet & try, but there’s no consistency! 🤷‍♀️ My other 2 children were both done way before 3 years old. Our LG is so advanced @ everything else, but just isn’t getting this. Good to know we’re not alone 😬

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Bare bum for us, never worked, he just liked to wee on the floor. Needs pants and trousers/shorts on as then they feel uncomfortable when wet. It took us on and off for like 10months! Like we would do it at home; but if out or at nursery put nappy on. I think it was making matters worse; so eventually we just bit the bullet; the first week at nursery was a disaster like 4accidents a day; but had done the whole weekend before dry with us. Then we started sending him to nursery with his carry potty and he was much better. Now 2months later it’s a rarity he has an accident at nursery or home.

However even now he is potty trained if he’s bare bum he will still we on the floor; just assumes bare bum means free for all.

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I truly think you have to follow their lead and wait for them to be ready. I tried several times with my son before he was 3 and had no success, he was reluctant to go on, eventually was happy to go on but nothing would happen. He even ended up with a UTI from withholding which made me feel terrible. Then just after he turned 3, out of nowhere we were in the garden and he said “wee wee potty” and we went inside and he did his first potty wee!!! I took his lead from there and he was trained within a week. He’s dry at night. I know it’s frustrating but some kids just take longer for them to be ready to do it. When they’re really ready it’ll be fast and successful. I’d mention the potty occasionally and keep the potty books around but nothing too intense.

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