Need advice…

Me and my husband have been together for 5 years now we have two kids the youngest just turned 1. For the past few months he’ll come home from work and just go to the toilet and seat on the toilet for hours I mean like he gets home at 5:30pm and he’s in there till like 7 the earliest. Today he came at 5 and it’s 8:56pm rn and he’s till on the toilet scrolling through ig I can hear the reels playing than he’s gonna go shower for another hour. I feel so angry. I’ve spoken to him so many times to stop doing that cause the kids will be waiting to hang with him and he doesn’t care. Before we use to wait for him to shower before we eat dinner now we just eat without him. Then he’ll come out saying I’m sorry I didn’t realize it was that late. I’m so tired and over it. I feel so over him I can’t even feel any sexual desires towards him. Every time I see him now I wish he’d just go away I hate hearing the “I’m sorry”

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7 year itch or marriage falling apart?

We’ve been together for going on 8 years. Married for going on 3. We have a 1 year old. We’re always fighting or snapping at each other now. He talks down to me. Makes me feel stupid or like I’m being difficult and when I call him on it I get “I’m just trying to talk to you” but if I’m even the SLIGHTEST bit of anything other than happy and obedient, suddenly I have an attitude or I’m being bitchy. He won’t help me with anything unless I freak out on him. He’s a great dad but that’s it. We used to be totally in sync with each other and we never argued or fought nearly this much. I’ve been diagnosed with PPD PPA, & PPOCD so obviously I’m different but like….. I’m trying. I’m on meds. Was doing counseling. Trying to communicate. He won’t do anything to help us adjust and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I have to spend most every evening 🍃 🔥 or we end up fighting. I can’t do this. Help…?

Would this annoy you?

On my husbands side of the family his mum has lots of close family friends (aunties) we call them aunty -insert their name-. They have all decided to call themsleves grandparents.
Grandma -insert name- ....
I dont like it. I find it too much that they've decided they get to be called grandparents. Theyre not blood related and although theyre close friends to my MIL. They are not my kids grandparents so I dont like them calling themselves that.
All my uncles and aunties are great uncle -insert name. Or I like to call them uncle -insert name- the great for fun. I wouldnt call them grandma or grandad. To me it is special to be a grand parent. You dont get to just chose that youre grandma this or grandma that. Also my step mum finds it really special to her that we gave her granma title, her kids aren't close with her so its reallt special to her that she has been given that title. So for all these people just to be deciding they get that title too kind of makes it feel less special and I also think it would make her upset to know all these people have the same title. (Like she says thank you so much for letting me be grandma to your child, its so special to me- just for her to find out my daughter has 10 granmas, kind of takes away from her being given that title if you get me)
Like its a privilege to be a grandparent, not a right, you also dont get to decide youre a grandparent when youre not.

Would you allow him around your child?

So my step son used to have really violent tenancies when he was younger. I mean like 4 years old to about 8 years old. He got excluded from his first day at school at 4 years old for throwing a chair at a teacher. Then my now Husband would get messages almost daily off his ex saying he'd been hurting his baby sister. And one time he got really angry cos his little cousin pulled his hair she was only a baby.
Anyway he was only little so I thought he'd grow out of it. And I didn't hear anything for years about anything.
Anyway recently at our wedding he was bullying his little cousin tripping her up and trying to take our wedding favours off her. She's 6 and he's now 11.
He's an odd child anyway I can't put my finger on it he just says weird things.
We have a baby. And I don't want him around our baby alone anymore.

UC and childcare help question

Hi all. I need to increase my daughters childcare hours as I am going back to work (she currently only does two mornings a week which we pay for as only my daughter’s dad is working) but since it’ll be both of us working soon does that mean we can include childcare costs in our claim and that would be taken into account our monthly uc payments (to help pay for childcare) as without help there really isn’t any point in me working as nursery fees are expensive and I’ll literally be earning just to pay and cover nursery fees.

Am I overreacting?

My fiance and I just bought an rv camper to move into. He’s lived out of state for a job for months, just purchased the trailer a couple weeks before the baby and I moved down. He’s known that the trailer needs some roof work and sealing in places as there’s leaks. It hasn’t rained since he bought it, and wasn’t expecting rain until later this week. Note: we are in WASHINGTON, it’s a miracle it hasn’t rained in 2 weeks. Okay now to the point, he’s been putting off sealing the roof for whatever reason and today he had to work. It rained today and the leak is worse than we anticipated. He told me he was going to DoorDash me supplies so I could climb onto the roof and seal it today while he’s at work. I said no. 1. I have no where safe to keep our 1 year old by himself. 2. I am not climbing onto the mossy slippery roof IN THE RAIN by myself in the middle of a forest with my baby (still don’t know where I’d put him).

Anyway am I overreacting for not doing this bc he put it off during his days off?

Just wanted to rant about husband!

Has anyone felt that the husband is isolating you alone after baby .like he does things on his own often leaving me alone with baby.we went to holiday where he went to river rafting with his friends while leaving me and baby at hotel .the thought itself drives me mad and angry n then he is like would you like to go alone for rafting while he will take care of baby ..is it okay or am I mad unnecessarily