7 year itch or marriage falling apart?

Damn I’m sorry this is happening. From my field of work I get these situations all the time and from my perspective, when you tell a healthy partner what you need they adjust. Like you with your post partum and making sure you’re taking care of your mental health for you and your relationship and he doesn’t seem to do that even though you tell him. With putting you down. Making you feel like you’re being difficult when you point things out. Things only being okay when you ‘suck it up’ all point to emotional abuse if someone came in saying these things to me. I might be wrong but it might be worth looking into

Has he gone to therapy or dealt with the major changes himself? I obviously dont mean this as a slight to you in any way, but i assume living with a partner with PPD, PPA, & PPOCD must be a huge adjustment, on top of his own adjustment to parenthood. Id say if the difficulties started after the baby, give him some grace and time. Especially if he hasn't done his own therapy. Maybe couples therapy. Have yall taken some time for yourselves away from the baby?

Couples counseling is what I recommend. I know it may be difficult with scheduling and kids, but I’ve heard it doing wonders for other couples. My dad once told my sister “you’ll end up unhappy with your partner, might as well marry a someone who is a good father” it’s really not the best advice but it stuck with me. When I’m unhappy with my partner I think about how wonderful of a dad he is. You deserve to be treated better nonetheless, so it might help to get support from others whether that’s through church, counseling, or support from family. I hope this helps in some way. Wishing you & your family the best!

Also, he’s had over a year to put in effort and he hasn’t.

I can only give so much grace to the person who makes me cry almost daily.

Only you know the reality of your situation so of course take what I said with a grain of salt. If you think taking small steps towards separation could be best for you both, then maybe that's your next step.

Same boat here ! Following this post to hear more about others stories, bc yess this!

I’m praying that it’s a phase and gets better as the kid grows older, but I feel just the same