Would this annoy you?

On my husbands side of the family his mum has lots of close family friends (aunties) we call them aunty -insert their name-. They have all decided to call themsleves grandparents.
Grandma -insert name- ....
I dont like it. I find it too much that they've decided they get to be called grandparents. Theyre not blood related and although theyre close friends to my MIL. They are not my kids grandparents so I dont like them calling themselves that.
All my uncles and aunties are great uncle -insert name. Or I like to call them uncle -insert name- the great for fun. I wouldnt call them grandma or grandad. To me it is special to be a grand parent. You dont get to just chose that youre grandma this or grandma that. Also my step mum finds it really special to her that we gave her granma title, her kids aren't close with her so its reallt special to her that she has been given that title. So for all these people just to be deciding they get that title too kind of makes it feel less special and I also think it would make her upset to know all these people have the same title. (Like she says thank you so much for letting me be grandma to your child, its so special to me- just for her to find out my daughter has 10 granmas, kind of takes away from her being given that title if you get me)
Like its a privilege to be a grandparent, not a right, you also dont get to decide youre a grandparent when youre not.

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I get the whole auntie thing. Growing up we always called mums close friends ‘auntie name’ and with my close friends we do the same, they’re auntie to my kids and I am to theirs.

Now I’m an adult though, I don’t still call them auntie?? They’re just their name.

I also find the entitlement of grandparent a step over the boundary. I’d be speaking to hubby about how I don’t appreciate nor like it and that I feel it needs to stop.

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We have a similar construct in my family and I would feel the same! I even have an 'auntie' who I actually consider my only grandmother figure but I've never called her that because she isn't! So I think how you feel is very fair. Thats a difficult one to navigate!

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It's weird. Suggest the great aunts be called something of the great aunt nicknames like Graunty (gruncle or grunk), Gigi, Mimi, (unk, unkie, pee-paw, pip)

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