Toddler & Child

/

Author

in

IT'S A POLL WORLD! 🙋🏽‍♀️

Struggling with Pornography

Hey everyone. I've honestly been avoiding this, but I am exhausted, and I just want to be better.

I found it when I was 12. Got traumatized. Then I avoided it. After I left the church I was in and got with my now partner I got into it again. I really like sex and just got into it. My partner watches as well.

After having children I don't really watch, mainly because I don't have time. But I got into the Ai chats and pretty much been getting addicted to it, especially since I'm having a hard time. My partner and I barely get time to ourselves and I get lonely in the day while he's at work.

I don't masturbate to it but I just stay glued to my phone, and it's easier to hide. I just feel like a loser. I feel like it's ruining my expectations of sex, taking time away from my partner, and just my life. But every time I try to stop I end up downloading all the apps again after a difficult or stressful moment.

I don't know how to get over this. Especially since my partner still watches and I don't feel like it's my place to tell him to stop as well. Plus I'm a kinky person and like finding new ideas and I just feel like in this loop of spiked excitement then guilt.

Any advice?

Also just to clarify my partner did not suggest or groom me into watching porn again. I did that on my own.

1

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Sorry to be the one to say it but.. therapy. Get to the root of what caused this and try developing healthier coping skills outside of that. Good luck!

Read more on Peanut

Trending

in our community

Feeling miserable

My relationship with my husbands the worst it has ever been. We got married last year (and had a baby) and ever since the wedding we couldn’t be so far from the couple we were before. We argue all the time, he walked out on New Year’s Day, he’s shouted at me and I’ve seen a side I don’t like (I will hold my hands up and own that I’ve not been my best self either at times). Not sure if it’s because of how up/ down things have been but I’ve got no interest in being close or intimate with him even as simple as hugs or kisses. Recently I had a minor disagreement with my mil which she totally blew up and created a false story against me. She sent horrible messages about me to my husband calling me controlling, using my past mh issues against me and being rude about my family. She’s turned all of the family against me and has said they don’t want to see anymore of me. The last few days my husband and I have argued constantly and are barely speaking. He’s said things about my way of parenting that really hurt me. I honestly feel so miserable and low and fed up of how things are. No idea what to do. Been together 4 years and I’m questioning if we are actually compatible for each other

1

4

Is being unable to do a nappy ridiculous?!

So my boy is 20 months and we don't have daycare. When I need some time to do something I have to schedule it for a day my mum is not working (she's part time and nearly 70). However she can't really have him for more than an hour or two alone. She can't do his nappies...I admit he is really hard to change now. It's like a wrestling match and if there's poop involved it can take someone having to distract him, hold the phone with dancing fruits playing etc to ensure it doesn't go anywhere!
My partner thinks it's ridiculous she can't do it but I kinda get it....
What do you guys think? Any tips!?

9

Homemade snacks

Hey! My son loves crunchy snacks like these and the banana weaning wands etc but I was wondering if there was a healthier option or homemade because they ain’t the cheapest things 🥲

1

8

Potty training help please im about to kill myself

I have 2 kids in diapers. A 4.5 year old on the spectrum and a NT 22 months old. Im trying the no pants no diaper nothing method. Its been 2 days. I dont have much hope for my 4.5 yr old but i am having the hardest time with my 22 months old. She understands everything. She tells me when she peed or pooped and gets a diaper to get changed and doesnt like to be bothered when shes pooping and hides. When i ask where pee and poo goes, she says potty. But after 2 days, i still havent gotten 1 pee in the potty. I sit with her every 30 min because she pees on the floor every 30 min. I will sit with her with toys and stuff for 1 hour and she wont go. As soon as shes off the potty, she will pee on the floor. If i catch her peeing and grab her to bring her to the potty, she will stop peeing and hold her pee until shes off the potty and finish it on the floor. She also finds it funny and starts laughing. Is this normal? How long will it take for get it? My friend said shes not ready but she is showing signs and i cannot have 2 grown kids in diapers. Also if anyone has tips to potty train an autistic kid, please share. I am losing my mind. I cry everyday over this. The pressure from family and friends because my kids arent potty trained is getting heavy.

13

Pate??

Can a child under 1 eat pate?? (Smooth Brussels pate to be precise) we always have it in the fridge as my husband loves it and I keep questioning everything I read. I’m getting to the point where I want to put different things on toast/crumpets for him. Thanks!!

8

Desperate

At this point I just feel desperate for my marriage to go back to not feeling like a war zone. Not even “normal”, just calm for longer than 12 hours. He doesn’t feel appreciated nor empathized with, I don’t feel heard or supported. He uses sex to feel confident in our relationship and I need to feel confident in our relationship to have sex.

It feels like we’re operating on different planets. I miss my marriage and husband. We see a couples counselor as well as our own therapists.

I’m still struggling to let go of resentment from the past. I’m also struggling with how he needs to learn everything “the hard way” despite debatably over communicating with him on my needs.

I definitely spent a lot of time relying on him too much but his avoidance in communication is breaking me. It’s a lot, too much. I’m tired and sad all the time.

I don’t even know if I need advice just not to feel so alone all the time.

1

4

Read more on Peanut

Download the Peanut App

Download on the App Store

Get it on Google Play

Advertising enquiries

advertising@teampeanut.com

Press enquiries

press@teampeanut.com

Something else?

info@teampeanut.com

About Us Blog Medical Review Guidelines Offers Peanut @ Work Shop

Peanut News Terms Privacy Download Due Date Calculator Chinese Gender Predictor Ovulation Calculator

© 2026 Peanut.

English Español