Feeling miserable

My relationship with my husbands the worst it has ever been. We got married last year (and had a baby) and ever since the wedding we couldn’t be so far from the couple we were before. We argue all the time, he walked out on New Year’s Day, he’s shouted at me and I’ve seen a side I don’t like (I will hold my hands up and own that I’ve not been my best self either at times). Not sure if it’s because of how up/ down things have been but I’ve got no interest in being close or intimate with him even as simple as hugs or kisses. Recently I had a minor disagreement with my mil which she totally blew up and created a false story against me. She sent horrible messages about me to my husband calling me controlling, using my past mh issues against me and being rude about my family. She’s turned all of the family against me and has said they don’t want to see anymore of me. The last few days my husband and I have argued constantly and are barely speaking. He’s said things about my way of parenting that really hurt me. I honestly feel so miserable and low and fed up of how things are. No idea what to do. Been together 4 years and I’m questioning if we are actually compatible for each other

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Bless you! My story is really similar. We got married last year, our baby was born this year, and I also had a conflict with my MIL. She sent messages to my husband about me too…

We’ve been arguing about minor things since our baby was born. I’m not going to lie — I think in our case it’s more because of my poor mental health causing the arguments. I’m really impatient, and I get angry and frustrated so easily. I think my husband has gone into defensive mode because of it. He said he’s struggling to cope with my anxiety because he never knows what mood I’ll be in 😢

I feel really bad about myself because we have such a healthy and beautiful relationship, and I really don’t want this to ruin it…

What helps us is talking in bed when the baby is asleep and just hugging each other in the dark. Sometimes we don’t even talk — we just hug…

I really hope you guys find peace. I’m sending you lots of hugs, and I wish you all the best ❤️

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