Fear has to leave NOW

Can give you a testimony?

So anxiety has always had me in a choke hold.
It first started when I was a toddler and my mom would leave me and my siblings home alone. The gag is -

when my mom left home. So would my siblings sister (14) and brother(12)-Leaving (me) a 3 and 4 year old in the house. And sometimes Locked in the bedroom, so I wouldn’t walk out the door .

And this is the very first moment being scared became an everyday , normalized feeling.

As a teen I began to try and fight my anxiety by watching scary movies and crime murder mystery shows … mainly because I wanted to get desensitized.

This only mad things worst for me. Bc I became paranoid about death. And even more anxious about the world around me.

In my twenties the anxiety carried on an lead to my self sabotaging and disstuctive way of living

But now that ima mom and i wanna finally enjoy life. Fear and anxiety still haunts my life.

But now… I mean TODAY .

I declare fear has to leave.

It cannot govern my path.

Can you relate or do you have something you would to share?

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