Any second time (or more) moms find it hard to connect with first time moms?
I don't mean this as a judgement. I completely get that everything is new for them and I try to be supportive of that when it comes to their experiences.
It just drives me a little crazy when I say I'm fine or not worried about something and they keep trying to go on about how scary that sounds.
Like in individual conversations I mentioned I'm having Braxton Hicks to a few friends with only one. They all got so concerned and talked about how BH are so scary and concerned I must be about to go into labor. I tried to explain that they are just annoying and uncomfortable, not scary or concerning, but it was as if they couldn't understand me. Also the only reason I bring it up is because they ask how pregnancy is going and I never know how to answer that question, so I just say "oh you know heartburn and Braxton hicks".
When I mention BH to friends with multiple kids they just go "oh I remember those, so annoying".
I feel like I have similar versions of this about different topics all the time.
I have GD for the second time and all my first time mom friends act like it means I'm dying. I am zero percent concerned about it. I am totally diet controlled and have barely even changed my eating habits. I just check my blood sugar after and add more protein if I want dessert. I try to explain this and get vacant stares followed by "you're so brave I don't know how you manage. I'd be terrified". I'm literally just drinking a protein shake.
Yes I know it is much worse for some, and that sucks. I'm very grateful mine is mild. I also understand that they probably would be terrified, I was the first time, but I don't know why they act as if I should be now.
If I say I'm fine why is it that moms with only 1 kid never believe me, but moms of multiple do?
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No, but I wasn’t around any irl FTM when I was pregnant w/#2. The only annoying thing was after giving birth, my hubs was a FTD, from the beginning with our 2nd, he didn’t come into our oldest’s life until nearly 4 when we moved in w/him. People on his side suddenly seemed to forget that I’d been a mom for a dozen years & ya know you kinda have it down by that point & I’m a big reader, so I’d already updated myself & had him all caught up. My hubs was naturally pretty nervous & self critical, “am I doing this right”, kinda thing, but he really took to dad life seamlessly, just kinda following my lead. One night I took an adorable video of our baby practicing his rolling on dad’s chest, he was alert & our son was very gently rolling right into dad’s cradle positioned arms, it was absolutely adorable. Omg my SIL told him that could cause SBS & had him scared, I had to explain that SBS is abuse, it’s extreme whiplash & can’t happen w/gentle playing & deff not by rolling themselves over.🤦🏽♀️
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