Selfish to have a child

Her dad was 10 years older than mom, so he was 50 when she was born. He passed when she was around 15 (he was 65)

My dad was 44 when I was born. I’m 43 now and he’s in a memory care unit with dementia. Do I wish he was younger when he had me? Yes. Absolutely. Being one of the first among my friends to deal with a very elderly parent is lonely and hard with no one to relate to in my circle. I don’t know if i would consider it selfish.

Ummm dammm can’t really even give an answer my mom is finna be 50 and my dad would be in his early 70s he died at 69 but they had my brother going on 16 years ago and he’s the baby out of 6 so I wouldn’t really say it’s selfish to have a baby after a certain age as long as they are well enough to care for it but it’s a little concerning that she had a baby at that age while her daughter had to take care of her bc of the risk that comes with pregnancy

Ppl are living longer, so 40 is fine I’d say, but I cringed when Robert De Niro be ame a Dad at 79.

Idk I’m kinda 50/50 on this depending of situation, like I know I won’t have any more kids because I have so many health problems already can’t imagine having a young child when I’m 40, So if I had more knowing this then that’s selfish of me to

But If I was healthy, finally married, finally financially stable, first child and it took till 40 than that’s not selfish, that is doing your best it just took a lil longer. I believe more people want to be healthier too, so hopefully we start living longer for our children

My MIL was 41 when she had my husband. She remarried and already had two kids, but her husband wanted one so they had my husband. His siblings were in their late teens when he was born and he has no relationship with them.

She's 80 now and in poor health. My husband's dad (whom I never met) died in his early 60s.

Ultimately, he's not close with his mum, but neither are his siblings, who she had in her 20s 🤷‍♀️

I had my child at 37, after 2 years of trying. I wouldn't consider it selfish. There are benefits to having kids when you are older, just as there are to having kids younger. At an older age, most people have a lot more wisdom and experience, are more emotionally mature, and generally in a more stable place in life economically and financially. There's also been some evidence that having children later in life is beneficial for your own health. Older parents tend to live longer because they have more of a vested interest in staying healthy for their kids. I find this to be true in practice, for us at least, because my husband especially is in the best shape he's ever been in his life, and he attributes that to wanting to be a healthy, active father to his child.

Meh, I don't think there's a perfect age or perfect family. It's sort of childish to grow up and resent your parents for health issues that are largely out of their control. I'm 36 now, I'm not having more but I don't feel like I'm remotely infirm and don't see that changing in 4 years 😂 I wanted a baby at 30, that didn't work out for me, we started trying at 29 and it took a long time, IVF was needed. If it had taken longer, I wouldn't have stopped because of a generic cut off age. Equally, I wouldn't go back and start trying sooner because I believe that I personally am a much better mum in 30s than I would have been in my 20s.