Whats harder miscarriage or infertility

I think it depends which way round they happen. I had a miscarriage 10 years ago which was upsetting but me and partner werent actively trying. When we started trying and it took years that upset me more than my miscarriage. But I can imagine if you are actively trying and it takes time but then miscarry its soul crushing

I think for me personally infertility. I’ve had miscarriages and whilst sad, they didn’t break me. My friend is battling infertility and she’s a ghost of herself, destroying her own happiness and others in the process. It’s taken everything from her and I think her marriage is on the rocks from it.

My miscarriages were hard but they made us stronger, didn’t stop our lives and didn’t damper our spirits to keep trying. If I knew I was infertile though id be heartbroken and probably have an identity crisis.

I've experienced 2 miscarriages so know how heartbreaking they are. I've had rainbow babies. Personally I think infertility would be harder for me