Need advice

My baby boy will by 4 months here soon. I have pumped and breastfed since he was born. The entire time I have struggled with a low supply, I have tried supplements, foods, drinks, buying an extremely expensive pump, everything you can think of. Yet nothing is working, I will never get more than 4 oz in an entire pump & that’s after like 6 hours. If I pump every 2-3 I only get 1-2 oz max. I obviously have to supplement with formula which I have done extensive research on & get his formula from Germany. But lately my mental health has just been tanking. I have so many things to do in a day as I am also a full time working mom that pumping for almost nothing is really draining me. I’ve had thoughts of wanting to quit but I can’t quite swallow that pill myself, I almost feel like I’m just giving up. I need advice and thoughts, what would you do in this situation? Stop for your own sake or would you keep going? I am so torn.

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stop for your own sake. you've dedicated so much of yourself to it when it matters most. he'll be weaning soon anyway if you want him to be. give yourself a break, you've done enough and he will be perfectly healthy on formula

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Pumping doesn’t show how much you actually produce, baby’s stimulation on the nipple is a lot more effective. Have you tried pumping whilst breastfeeding from the other breast? Or could you only breastfeed and stop pumping

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My baby is 2 months old and my milk supply was already dropping really fast to the point I couldn’t satisfied my baby I’m not saying that it will definitely help you but for me I had to eat a lot more than I was used to and I started drinking agua de avena (which translates to oatmeal water) and it definitely helped I would drink once in the morning and at night but you can also drink it two hours before you feeding or pump I really hope this helps but if it doesn’t help it’s completely normal don’t feel like your doing something wrong not every body is the same and your doing great

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Let me ask my mom how to make it because she makes for me

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Firstly, you are absolutely not failing. Honestly, the amount of effort and dedication you’ve already put into feeding your baby is amazing. Pumping, breastfeeding, working full time and mentally carrying all of this is a huge amount for one person.

Just to reassure you a little - if you’re breastfeeding as well as pumping, getting 1–2 oz every 2/3 hours from a pump isn’t necessarily as low as social media makes it seem. Pumps also don’t always reflect total milk supply because babies are usually much more efficient at removing milk. Breastfed babies also don’t tend to keep increasing milk volume the same way formula-fed babies do, because breast milk adapts in composition to your baby’s needs over time.

One thing that could be worth looking into if you haven’t already is flange sizing/inserts, because a lot of women unknowingly use flanges that are too large and it can affect comfort and milk removal. Hands-on pumping/breast compressions, skin-to-skin and letting baby latch

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Everything that Lorana said. I’ve been in your place and I know how hard it could be.. let baby stay latched for as long as you can as much as you can.. I thought I was doing something wrong and I stopped because I thought my baby was not getting enough, even though she was gaining weight etc… and I was just being paranoid. What i wish was someone to encourage me.. i stopped breastfeeding and there hasn’t been a day where I don’t think about it.. I personally regret stopping(not saying that you will) . My advice is just try and latch baby as much as you can so you drop formula feeds. Thats what I did.

Don’t beat yourself up. It already sounds like you are doing sooo much for your baby.. and you are trying your best. Whatever decision you make just tell yourself you did the best you could.. because it’s true!!🤍🤍🤍

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Try cash cow herbal capsules get it from Amazon or order from legendary milk company Amazon is cheaper it works also u may need a new pump I went to mom cozy it came with several different flanges that help
Having a good pump help name issue his 4 months I started and stopped it’s not to late trying to restart now
After I had a virus for a week
You can do it buy that cash cow drink water in 3 days yo will notice more milk I promise

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