relactation. help pls

hey yall i’m a new mom to a 1 month and a couple weeks old babygirl. i’m 18 and will be 19 soon. after i had her in the hospital i tried breastfeeding but my anxiety kicked in because i started thinking she wasn’t getting enough because i couldn’t tell. i talk to the nurses and they gave her sim sensitive formula. she’s been on it ever since. since i wasn’t breastfeeding after 2 weeks my boobs stop producing the milk i could tell. As of lately i’ve had the urge to feed her my milk because of all the benefits and the fact i’m not breastfeeding kills me for some reason. i know it so good for her i just want to idk why. is it too late???? i’ve talked to chat gpt and they gave me a plan to start the process. i don’t know why i seem so torn. but i want to breastfeed my baby and stop using this formula. what do you guys think? someone pls help me

i also smoke and drink if it really matters alot

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Breast feeding is so exhausting but I know it is a great feeling feeding our babies our milk. You may have to take warm showers and massage your breasts to get the milk supply up but it def is not completely dried out. I’ve met Moms who breast fed for over 3 years. The trick is to be sure you’re super hydrated otherwise milk will be low! Good luck! You got this!

You can totally start the lactation process. It is not too late! However, you are gonna have to cut back on the smoking and the drinking. Smoking can make it harder to lactate, and it has been linked to having less of a supply. Nicotine also transfers through your milk can make the baby fussy.

As for the drinking, just plan for it! Whenever I wanna have a drink, I make sure I pump beforehand that way I can give my daughter some breastmilk when it comes to her feeding time or if you’re open to it, you can just supplement with formula!
They say one drink equals waiting two hours, two drinks equals waiting four hours and so on! Other lactation consultants say as long as you can pick the baby up you’re fine to breast-feed and drink so it’s up to you on what you wanna do!

But definitely not too late to start breast-feeding if that’s what you choose

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