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So recently I confronted to my husband I don’t want another baby..

The reason that is is the turama I went through with my first born son- and also the fact in my first year being mum no one was really there for me mentally and suffered on my own.

However my husband is adment on having another baby and keeps asking my son if he wants brother or sister.

Tbh when I had this conversation with him he wasn’t really supportive and says I will have to forget about my truma with my birth.

I had a forsap and had blood loss and had to be operated for 2hr to be stitched back up and stayed for another 2 days… when I had to pee the nurses laughed at me and was hurting me with the caperater.

Plus the way he is with me isn’t right he swears- don’t help me in the house unless it’s garage or just swears at me even at smallest things.

Unfortunately my son sees that I don’t want to put another child through this.

Plus I’m happy atm with me but if he don’t want to support this decision then I’m going to take my son to my mum’s with me for break in the relationship

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I’m sorry for what you’re going through, have you considered birth control? It doesn’t excuse his behavior or anything. Just to ensure you can be covered yk. I think your mom’s sounds like a great idea. Will it aggravate rhe situation?

Girlllpo this is horrible. There are so many stories like this on here. Too many men not being supportive and helpful with their partners and children etc. pleaseeeeee get on birth control. Don't get pregnant by this man. And I would suggest taking steps to leave him. There are some really great men out here. You don't have to accept mediocre behavior

Hmmm please please message me we have a very similar situation I would love someone to relate

Away from the having anothrt baby subject.. i really advise you to go through your file with a nurse and try to give this trauma a lovely ending .. for your sake so you could close this in your mind and can think clearly and fix your relationship with a clear head❤️ then you might think about changing your minds
May allah ease it for you and heal you physically and mentally without ever going through all this pain again ❤️

Even if you didn't have birth troubles/trauma, I still would say not to have another child with this man. He isn't helpful around the house and speaks to you in a way you don't like. This type of man does not deserve to have more children from you

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